I'm 25 and a stay at home of 2 small girls. My husband works full time and is finishing up his last semester of college, so he's gone from about 6:30 am to 6:30 pm, then we eat dinner as a family, put the kids to bed, and then he does homework or just relaxes. Lately I've noticed that our sex is different (doing stuff he's never done before - we've been together for 7 years) and he doesn't seem to care if I take off after the girls go to bed to run errands - even if I do it often. I had a dream last night that he was having an affair with a coworker. I was curious before, now I'm suspicious. Dumb, I know - it was just a dream.
Is this all in my imagination or would you be suspicious?
2007-10-23 15:10:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You remind me a lot of me to be honest. I am so sorry for all of the anxiety that you are feeling about this, and you know what....I really think that is probably all it is...anxiety. Let me tell you what, I can "find" a reason to worry about just about anything. My friend once told me, Jeannie...you would worry about worrying, lol. and she is right.
I am not dismissing your feelings on this or your "intuitive feelings"..but when you actually think about it...there is really nothing here as far as I can see except for the fact that he is gone a lot, which is to be expected since he is in college, and the difference in sex which may have to do with the fact that he just wants to try new things. I believe that is what I would think,...well who am I kidding, lol...like I say I am like you that way. However, when someone else has problems I tend to be able to sort through things pretty well.
You might bring up that hey..I am all into new things now and then and all, but I have noticed you have been a little different in bed lately. You know, bring it up softly and he shouldn't be offended or anything. It might give you some peace of mind, but I really think things are fine.
Try to chalk it all up to anxiety issues. Ohh and I almost forgot to tell you that the thing about the dream....dreams just give your feelings a voice. You have been all worried and that showed through in your dream. I really believe that's all it is.
Good luck and take care...hope this helps.
2007-10-23 16:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. My husband works a lot and comes home late too. I have the same nightmares. Its very hard to distinguish if something out there is trying to tell you something. I know it sounds a little superstitious but you just gotta catch him red handed in order to take some real action.
2007-10-23 16:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of the hot cellular telephone with a month's properly worth of calls on it somewhat is greater suspicious than the bathe. in line with danger the bar develop into somewhat smokey and he did no longer choose that on him while he went to mattress. yet the two issues mixed are a considerable purple flag and that i could be attending to the backside of it ASAP if I have been her.
2016-10-04 11:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy some credit for all his hard work.
Enjoy the new stuff that he is doing and value and cherish him for working so hard for you and the kids.
Dont let anxieties take over you and the marriage.
Hold on to what you have !!
2007-10-23 15:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Romi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT be one of those crazy wives that needs to manufacture problems in the marriage to make life more exciting.
If you have a good thing, enjoy it. Your marriage will have phases. It is natural. Don't worry. It will pass.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 15:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When does he have the time?
2007-10-23 15:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think if he really has the time to do that.
anyway, for ur dream, find its meaning here:
www.dreammoods.com
u may get to interpret what u feel after reading that
2007-10-23 15:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He works and goes to school. Chances are he's just plain exhausted.
2007-10-23 15:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep a close eye on him and see what he is up too
and just relax and trust him unless u find him cheating on u
2007-10-23 15:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by moises v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually women's feelings of this are pretty accurate I wouldn't say anything just yet but keep an eye out.
2007-10-23 15:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by lialex30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋