Do you need your parents approval to go to any college?

Question

My father and mother do not want me to go far away to college
They want me to stay here in Newark, NJ and go to school.

I DO NOT WANT TO GO TO SCHOOL HERE!

TEXAS WOMANS UNIVERSITY WOULD BE VERY GLAD TO HAVE ME. I WAS ACCEPTED.

Answer 1

I feel for you. I faced the same situation some 20 years ago. I wish I would have left ( I had a free ride at Boston U.) My mother wouldn't give me plane fare so I didn't go. I am not finishing my degree until Dec. (finally)

I believe that if you are responsible and can handle living away from home (be honest with yourself) You might do better going away. Of course, you will be entirely responsible for your education which might mean taking out loans that will take you a while to pay off once you stop going to school.

You might want to try staying at home for one year to show your parents how responsible you are. Talk with them and ask if you prove yourself the first year, would they be willing to consider letting you go away. Your parents know you so they are basing their decision on what they believe your past actions have told them what is best for you.

Either way, consider yourself blessed to have the opportunity of going to college. Don't shut down and not perform to the best of your ability because you are not happy with your environment. Environments can be changed, your past can't
Good luck....

Answer 2

Sit down and think through your reasons for not wanting to go to the school of their choice, and your reasons for wanting to go to school in Texas. Remember the financial issues. Can you get a job while you are going to school to help pay for it? Think about qualities or the schools that might influence your parents. What are the job placement rates for graduates? Are there interesting options available at the schools such as churches and employment possibilities? Write down your thoughts in an organized way, both positive and negative, and then ask your parents to sit and talk with you about it.

Remember that you are their baby and they only want the best for you. What you need to do is figure out how to tell them that your choice of schools IS the best option for you. Please listen to them, though. You may not HAVE to have their approval, but you will need them. Even if you are paying for it all yourself, there will come times when you desperately need $20.00 or $50.00 to get through the next week!

Answer 3

Wow!! I am so happy to hear you were accepted.

As for your parents approval...There is one big thing that makes all the difference in the world? Who is paying for it. If they are, they have a right to say they want you to stay close to home. If you are paying for it, or you are on scholarship, you need to sit down and talk to your parents. Explain to them, in a calm and non emotional manner, that you appreciate their concern for your well being, but this is really what you want to do, and that you believe it is an important step on your way to your future career. You are an adult now. Tell them that there little girl is not leaving them forever, but merely needs to try her wings. Assure them that you will be home on holidays and email them every day, and most of all, that your moving to Texas does not mean that you don't love them. Explain that you really do want their support in this big step you are going to be taking and ask the to please give it to you because it would mean a lot to you to feel that the trust you and are treating you like the young adult that you are becoming. Just approach them as one adult to another.

Answer 4

I think a lot of that depends on who is paying for your education... However, legally, if it's the same there as it is here in Canada, you are the one that actually makes the decision.

Try sitting down and talking to your parents about why you want to go away and why they want you to stay. Explain to them why you think you should go to Texas and why staying in New Jersey isn't what is best for you, given your goals. Doing this may help them see that you are mature enough to go away to school.

Answer 5

I am in a similar dilemma, but I will be going with what I want. You are the one going to school, not your parents. They already had their chances! You will be spending 4 long years at college and you better be happy otherwise its gonna suck really bad. I decided to go with the college of my dreams even though it is farther away than what my parents would have liked.

Answer 6

My answer would be,

if your parents are educated and holding professional job, they would definitely know how to direct you toward your higher education and job.

if not, you should ask your teachers, relatives about what would be the right choice, all depends on your safety, finance, self confident and responsible.

at any circumstance you should discuss with your parents regarding move out from them, because they definitely choose a right choice for your.

Siva - NJ

Answer 7

in all probability when you consider which you're actually not counted as an grownup till you're 18 years previous, and your mothers and fathers pretty plenty administration you till then. Jeez, how did you graduate highschool so early??

Answer 8

Only if they are paying, do you need their approval.

Congrats on getting approved to the university of your choice, Madame Blueberry hopes that it works out for you. (hugs)

Answer 9

You don't need their approval but how will you finance it? You may need their co-signature for school loans. If you have a full scholarship, you can go wherever you want.

Answer 10

if you are 18 you are legally responsible for yourself and therefore you do not need your parents approval to go to the school you want to go to.