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I'm 23, my boyfriend is 19 and we live in 2 different countries. We have been dating for just over a year and we both aren't looking to marry or settle down soon but we are completely happy and in love with each other. We talk daily and are planing to move closer to each other once I'm done my degree in 6 months(I was already looking for a job where he lives before we even met). The first 4 months of our relationship we spent together in the same country. We trust each other completely so that is not an issue. What do you think the chances that something like this will last? Do you have any success stories??

2007-10-23 14:57:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Ok to add a bit of detail, he has come over here twice, both times being 1.5 months (so a total of 3 months in my country) and I have gone over to his once for half a month, no more due to school commitments. I've met his entire family and his mine. This plus the 4 months we were together in the begining. Added to that I'm going over again to spend Christmas and New Years at his parents place with his family. We both live at home, we have both travelled, I to Australia, England, Costa Rica, New York, him to Australia, LA, Singapore, France, Canada, and Spain. We both LOVE sports and are both in the same place in life...ie he didn't go to college, I went to uni...he is going to be in his career before I am. We talk daily and use Skype...its free. I don't really need % just your opinion

2007-10-23 15:04:50 · update #1

Ok the countries are Canada and England...so minimal cultural differences.

2007-10-23 15:09:05 · update #2

12 answers

Sounds like you are off to a good start. Keep working at the relationship. Have some fun too.

2007-10-23 15:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dan H 7 · 1 0

hey Zoe, you have a decent chance, maybe as good as anyone else ever does

you say that you live in different countries, but you don't say if there are cultural differences, or if you are both same culture, just living apart

the isue of cultural differences can be a big one, but you know what? people overcome big differences every day

it takes work and communication, but some people who have big issues get better at the work and communication than others who have small issues, and they come out ahead because they have developed the skill to work through it

6 months is a short time, I am reading Love in the Time of Cholera (novel) right now and he waited 51 years for his lover

2007-10-23 15:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by yyyyyy 6 · 1 0

If you are planning to move closer to where he lives and you could see him at least once a week, then I think you should give it a shot... but when you move near him... I wouldn't get to clingy at first because you don't really want to ruin things before they actually start. But if you give it a try then yeah, I think it could work but if you are planning to live in separate countries for the next year... I would either wait or take things really really slow.

2007-10-23 15:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by laura14hunter 1 · 1 0

You need to accept some basic facts first, like he is not your boyfriend and just because you have a degree in whatever, that does not mean you are ready for marriage.

Specifically, I cannot give you odds. This may work out, anything is possible. But remember to follow your heart and to be true to it.

Good luck.

2007-10-23 15:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0 1

I don't know of any success stories for this type of relationship, but many failures. Relationships that begin long-distance almost never last when faced with the reality of close contact.

My advice? Find someone local.

2007-10-23 15:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by TIna 4 · 0 1

You can't gamble on love honey. If it's meant to be, then it will last. If it wasn't, then you can chalk it up as a really good experience. Stop playing the odds before you ruin a good thing. Life's meant to be enjoyed. . .enjoy it for what it is.

2007-10-23 15:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0 0

No but you got a 50/50 chance.

2007-10-23 15:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

just stay friends, they r the best lovers, once the title of bf/gf or husband/wife come into the picture, then comes the fighting the fussing, the blood, police and then divorce

2007-10-23 15:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

It will not last because of the miles the time and the culture.... I do though wish you love and luck...

2007-10-23 15:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I'd say approximately 1.333333333% chance of it succeeding.

2007-10-23 15:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by aarie37 2 · 0 0

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