When I try to talk to my BF about things he does that hurts me, like lying to me or constantly breaking promises to me, or constantly throwing me out of the house without telling me why, paying back money he owes me, he tells me that there is nothing to talk about or hangs up on me or says that it was in the past and thats that etc. So these hurts dont get resolved.
He always finds a way of avoiding it and refuses to listen to me, but hes happy to talk about other things. I dont know what to do about it. I want to sort this out but everytime I try I get no where with him.
2007-10-23 14:48:19 · 10 answers · asked by Mama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can do so much better... if he won't listen to you now, chances are he never will... so just dump his ass and go for someone better
2007-10-23 14:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he's a boyfriend. Boyfriends come and go. Aside from him being totally disrespectful towards you, he's also a bit of an avoider. Which means he has alot of growing up to do. My suggestion would be to leave him alone, find someone who appreciates you and move on that much wiser. You can't make someone love and respect you, nor can you buy their affection. Please don't waste another second trying. You deserve better than this.
2007-10-23 14:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The communication breakdown is between your ears. You need to understand a few things like....
1. If he is not going to listen or care about your feelings, nothing you can say or do is going to change him
2. You deserve better than he is able to give you.
3. You need to be someones boyfriend, not mommy.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 14:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick your battles. if you really want this relationship to work, you have to decide to take a stand on the things that matter. his lying and breaking promises would be one that i would choose to try to change. look at what you are saying and doing from an outside point of view. are you being too hard on him? is he telling white lies so that you wont ***** him out or are they lies about things that matter. are they serious promises hes breaking or is he breaking a promise to take out the trash. try to only nag at him about the REALLY important things. if you find that you are still being let down by him its time to move on.
2007-10-23 15:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by jameson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a man who doesn't like confrontation, and doesn't like to be reminded of wrongs he did. if there isn't any acknowledgment of hurts he caused u, there isn't any way to resolve or reconcile, for as long as u are hurt, the resentment will be there. there are some men u can't get through to, men who don't care and can't feel it when they do things to hurt u, they are insensitive to u, and only care about themselves. they feel to admit wrong would be to admit some kind of weakness on their part. this man has many character flaws, and u can't change someone the change must happen within them.
2007-10-23 14:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, you are a convenience to him. He is taking advantage of your generosity.
Take a step back and ask yourself how you would like to be treated in a loving relationship. I think you will find that he does not give you what you want.
2007-10-23 14:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ako E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on honey.... He's not worth it you are to young to have your nerves shattered day after day... If he wont talk about anything with you he has other asperations...... Good luck and I wish you a great love Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-23 14:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I hate to say it, but this guy isn't going to change. You need to move on and find someone who likes to communicate w/ his woman. There are tons of guys out there who want to work on relationships. Find one of them instead of wasting your time getting emotionally abused.
2007-10-23 15:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't this is obviously a really stupid jerk who doesn't care about you and if he takes money and doesn't pay it back and all that other stuff then he's just using you.. give it up.
2007-10-23 14:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your better off to just leave him alone and find someone that is better to you
2007-10-23 14:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋