My husband (whom I love deeply) has no responsibilities in the house.He doesn't share in the household chores (laundry,dishes, meal time, shopping,ect) He works a part time job 3 days a week (Day Shift, might I add) I work 6 days a week (swing shift) at a Casino & Hotel. Granted I am working the hotel, but we have about 207 room and are full at least 4 days a week.It is a very fast pasted job.So I get off work at 1:30am and then have an hour drive home.so By 2:30am when I finally walk back in the door,Im way to tired to "fufill my wifely duties" He thinks that I should be ready to go when ever he is.But what I cant get him to understand is that if he helped more around that house and with the kids that I might have enought energy at the end of the day to have sex, But by the time I sleep for 3 hrs after I get home from work,Get 4 kids ready for school and then do the house work from the day before I am beat.so Is my lack of sex drive because of his lack of responcibility?
2007-10-23 14:37:25 · 7 answers · asked by racheldeos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say your lack of drive is because you are exhausted.
I don't understand how he is living in the house and not sharing in the things needed to be done to keep it up.
You need to sit down with your husband and explain how overwhelmed you are. Try not to put it in terms of accusing him, just facts, but let him know that you are starting to become resentful of him not helping out more. Tell him you love him deeply, but by the time you get everything done you have to, you just don't have the energy to be intimate with him.
Tell him what you need: cooperation and some help with things. Make a list of what things need to be done each day and ask him what he would be willing to take on. If he doesn't do them the way you want, so what. Let it go. He will be helping you out.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 15:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would have no attraction to a bum like that.
Part time job and doesn't help around the house. He's a bum.
Women are turned on in the mind and emotions... He's burned them OUT them out of you by his behavior... NOT even mentioning that you are beyond exhausted.
He may not understand this because men are turned on in
different ways, but who cares...You are already handling the home by yourself.. Might as well kick him to the curb and find a sexy man that is hard working and considerate.
2007-10-23 14:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are overworked and stressed. Why do you have all of the responsibilities? You work twice as much as he does. I would tell him that things need to change and that you need help. Stop letting him be lazy while you take care of everyone. I wouldn't give him any either. It is hard to do that when you are not happy with the person. I am sure that when you come home to clean up you are anything but happy with him. Demand more help and stick to it.
2007-10-23 14:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOMEN HAVE NO PROBLEM THROWING THEIR ACCOUNTABILITY ON THEIR MAN....
a typical female rant that most men could quote:
it is YOUR fault that I am the way I am...YOU made me make these choices...I HAVE ABSOLUTELY no spine nor capability to make my own choices...
if you did _______...then I'd do _______..(fill in the blanks)
if you DIDN'T ________...then maybe I wouldn't __________
the thing is..even WHEN WE DO IT...that isn't enough,...
when MEN do all of what you do WANT...then we get critiqued according to your standards and we still don't get things the way they ought to be...and we still get...I'm tired, I'm beat, I'm not in the mood, I'm this or that...
it never ends...
this is why men will, married or not...get lucky when they have sex.
sorry...I hate it when I only get ONE sided stories ....if you can't recognize that it takes 2 to dance...then you would be more empathetic to the small things that he may do when you are not there,,,
now..IF he really is completely apathetic towards you to where he is NOT pulling his weight...then talk about that...but he MAY not be pulling his weight..BECAUSE he feels you are not pulling YOURS...
BOTH OF YOU NEED TO BE ADULTS AND TAKE CARE OF WHAT NEEDS TAKING CARE OF...
you need to consider his needs and he needs to consider yours..the more sacrificing you are to each other the more you will appreciate each other.
2007-10-23 15:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like there's a general lack of communication and respect. THAT would surely affect your sex drive.
2007-10-23 14:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is because you are tired.and hes bludging on you make him do his fair share or boot him out.
2007-10-23 14:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by me m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think?
2007-10-23 14:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by R.Stafford 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋