I think my husband is cheating and want to to ask about it, HELP?

Question

my husband have totally changed since i had my last child, he start receiving calls and text messages from different girls, he start sleeping in the visitors room, he goes out every saturday night and sunday night, telling me he just want to drive around the neighborhood, he usually receive nude girls pictures from his friends. he stopped giving me allowance, we use to have joint account, now he has his own separate account. he take decisions without informing. he love to be on the phone than to be with me, WHAT CAN I DO PLEASE

Answer 1

divorce. have him followed. if he isn't cheating yet, he will REALLY soon. sounds like scum to me.

Answer 2

Sorry, but it sounds like your marriage is in serious trouble. You need to sit him down and have a serious talk. Do not accuse him of anything, just let him know that these things he is doing is bothering you. Give him a chance to explain. But without communication how can you determine what the cause or root of the problem is.
If talking goes no where, suggest a marriage counselor. There may be problems that can be helped with the assistance of an expert. If he completely refuses to see the counselor and if he refuses to talk with you to try to resolve these problems, ask him if he wants a divorce. Tell him you are not happy and you would rather divorce him and be without him than to be with him and unhappy. For some guys that could be a wake up call. If he feels that you are thinking along those lines then he might realize how he has been acting and attempt to make changes.
He is probably if not having an affair at least contemplating having one, which means you are going to have to face reality and get things in line to make the move to divorce. If he is having an affair then get a good lawyer and take everything he has.

Answer 3

If your husband is cheating on you ... That means that he is
already betraying and deceiving you. I doubt VERY seriously;
then ... that he will ... confess and be honest .... Just because you ask!

You need to get some legal advice. The financial changes
(like the separate accounts, and not giving you your allowance .... those things DO NOT sound good for YOU!)
Get professional advice so that you can protect yourself
financially.

As far as emotionally .... Ask your husband if he would like
to work on restoring your marriage. If he says YES ... then
he needs to commit to marriage counseling. And he (also)
needs to change the behaviors that you are displeased with.

If he is not willing to work on improving the marriage .... in a
way that is satisfactory to YOU. Then you need to accept
the painful truth that it is over. Start taking steps towards
healing. It will NOT be easy ... especially not at first. But
with help and support from family and friends .... maybe from
a "support group" or counseling .... YOU CAN MAKE IT!

You can NOT make your husband do ANYTHING that he does
not REALLY want to do! But you CAN control what you do
with the rest of your life. And you should make a point to
triumph!

Answer 4

What you DON"T want to do is ignore all of these signs. We never want to think that the person we have chosen to be our partner, the person we have children with, the person we trust above all others would hurt us. But they do. Confronting him without some evidence might not work. Chances are he will deny it, tell you that you are out of your mind and imagining things and then blame you for anything he is doing differently. But hon, the nude pictures, weekends out, separate accounts, none of that is good. Get observant, get smart at looking around, get his cell phone history, get some proof and then get some closure or some counseling. I will pray that God will give you strength. You have children to think about whatever you decide to do, be sure it's what's best for all of you.

Answer 5

my dad was always,always on the phone messaging and calling that bi*tch.now,they got baby together and some other problem,so my father is not always on the phone anymore.and yeah,he used to go in visitors room and go for drive no where a lot.my mom said he did it to talk with that bi*tch.your husband got all the signs.so,you really have to talk to your husband.find all the way you can to stay together.if he still don't change after the talk.i think you should get a divorce.my mom said to me,she's still with my dad because of us children.but i would rather they get a divorce than seeing my mom cry.parents always want the best for their children,but remember,as the children,we also want the best for our parents.Good Luck!pray to God a lot.that's what keeps my mom strong.

Answer 6

It sounds like he is cheating. He also has taken away all of your money. What happened to the joint account? He cannot close that without you. I would get rid of him. Do you work? If not I would find a job and get yourself situated. Open your own account and save some money. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

First, find a safe and secure place for you and your children.

Second, determine exactly how much money you have of your own.

Third, seek the help and assistance of a trusted friend.

Finally, file divorce and go to your safe place.

Your safety and the safety of your children is what is most important.

Answer 8

You need to talk to your husband about his recent change in behavior. He, obviously, doesnt respect you. You have to talk about what marriage means and what you expect from him. See if he is willing to put effort into it. You have kids so you want to work it out, but him sleeping in the guest room..That is so disrespectful and hurtful. I am sure you must feel very lonely. Talk to him and try to work it out. If not, marriage counseling.

Answer 9

he is beginning to disconnect from u, and is acting alot like a man does when he has another woman. he doesn't respect u anymore, and is probably saving his money so he can leave. this is exactly how a man acts when he wants out of a marriage, total disregard for his mate.

Answer 10

Try and talk to him. Be patient.
Try counselling. Sounds like Mid life crisis for your husband.
You both need to learn to communicate and work towards making marriage a lil better each day.
Counselling should help or you need to start being stern here and stand up yourself.

Answer 11

you need to unfortunatly check up on him and than confront him about it. If he is cheating you have a right to know as his wife. But don't be too rash about it. Most men are not going to just say yes to this.