suppose you and this someone had a fight and he/she wanted to leave? Would you beg them to stay with you?
2007-10-23 14:14:07 · 27 answers · asked by Mrs J 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't think It would do any good , but if it makes you feel like you gave it your all and tried everything i guess it couldn't hurt
2007-10-23 14:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No ... I would NOT BEG someone that "I loved more that life
itself" ... to stay with me.
Having a "fight" (I am assuming that it was NOT a physical
fight) ... Then having a fight is NOT a reason for either person
to end a relationship.
If the other person wanted to end the relationship ... I would
ask that person to discuss the REAL reasons for wanting
to leave ... And then I would ask that person to re-consider;
and I would ask them to commit to working on improving the
relationship. (We could discuss the best ways to do that)
You must realize that "BEGGING" is not going to improve a
relationship. Begging is NOT going to "make" a person
LOVE you. In fact ... BEGGING is ONLY going to drive the other person further away.
Sometimes ... people need time and space ... especially
when there are problems in a relationship. I am thinking
that THERE has GOT to be MORE than just a simple
argument that has cause the other person to want to leave.
You can ask ... but (again) you can not "FORCE" anyone to
do anything that they do not want to do. Begging is a type
of manipulation or "emotional drama" that WILL NOT produce
a viable relationship that will grow.
Unfortunately .... you "may" have to accept the painful truth
that the other person no longer values the relationship as
you seem to. It doesn't mean that YOU are not valuable.... It
just means that (the other person) seems to think otherwise.
If that is the case .... Then you having some type of "begging
scene" will ONLY prolong ... the pain that you will eventually
have to face.
2007-10-23 14:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I'd ever beg - that's just sad. It comes down to this: you can't MAKE someone love you the way you deserve to be loved and you can't make someone stay if they want to leave. The only thing you can do is have faith that your love with be strong enough to see you through. Some people have to leave in order to see how much they are missing and how much they love or miss that person. If it was just a silly fight, then why does this person want to leave? That's just crazy. Obviously it's something he was thinking about before so there must be other issues going on.
2007-10-23 14:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear about the current state of your relationship. Let me do my best to help here. First, there is the child. The baby must remain the top priority. Because it is entirely dependent on you at this point, you deserve the greatest care and support from those around you. Those around you...keep that in mind. Close friends and family are the best choices here. I did not say boyfriend. He should, ideally, be topping your list, but hopefully you do have options here. You're saying the communication is horrible. Sorry to hear. This is, in my opinion, the absolute most critical part of being involved with someone. In your case, it's at its fully realized state, motherhood, fatherhood. You both need to come to the conclusion that it's not just about the 2 of you anymore. It's about being rocks for each other, no matter the sacrifice.
2016-04-10 01:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, one should not beg. If you truly love him then let him leave if he wanted to. He might stay out of pity, but it will never make you happy, if you know in your heart that he is there physically but not wholly. Love is like a treppe phenomenon. It should be "all or nothing". Time will heal your wound. I am sure somewhere along the way, you will meet someone whom you will love and who will love you just as much.
2007-10-23 14:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can beg for forgivness and pray that that person won't remain scarred because of what happened but it doesn no good to beg for that person to stay with you.
Being with someone shouldn't just be an act of charity. The person should stay with you because she loves you and has faith in your future together.
If the love or the faith/trust is gone, no point in begging to have them keep you.
Asking for forgivness with no strings attached (i.e. please forgive me, even if we can never be together again as a result of this) can go a long way.
If you love that person so much you should wish them to be happy above all else.
If all you can wish is that she (the person) remains with you, than that's just slefish love.
2007-10-23 14:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by 2hearts 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No reason really to beg their mind is pretty much made up and if they don't go today then it will be in 2 weeks. State your love and let them go.
2007-10-23 14:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by That NC Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't beg, begging belittles and makes u look weak. instead communicate, find out why they are hurting, be willing to listen and allow them to open up emotionally. if its due to them finding another there will be nothing at all u can do about that but accept it and pretend its okay, keep your dignity, no pleading or crying as they will think less of u if u do and will gain u no respect.
2007-10-23 14:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Never do this to yourself. You never want to stay with someone who does not love you, respects you or value you for who you are.
Begging to be loved and taken care of is not a part of a healthy relationship.
Gather your self esteem and courage and make good decisions for yourself.
There is one life that you have to live and you decide on how you want to spend rest of your life.
Being cherished or treated like a doormat ?
2007-10-23 14:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Romi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would not beg him to stay. If he does he will use this power over you continually.
2007-10-23 14:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you love them more than life itself... then you need to get into counseling and forget about them.
That sounds horribly unhealthy and not like love at all.
Love is about LIFE...
2007-10-23 14:38:39 · answer #11 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋