I choose to follow my own path in life. That is, not following their religion. There are many things I cannot do because of what my parents follow. Ex: wearing pants, looking men in the eyes, etc. I know that if I don’t follow what they believe in that I will lose them and they will never speak to me again. Not only that, but I will lose all of my other Muslim friends too. I love them all so much and I don’t want to lose them.But I want to do something meaningful with my life. Like be a firefighter or something. Save lives, make a difference in the world. I don’t want religion to stop me from doing that. Am I being selfish? All my life I’ve never done anything independently because my parents won’t allow it. I feel like I’m going to implode soon. I’m only fourteen years old! I’m not going to run away or anything. I know that is not the answer. I’ve tried talking to them. All they do is yell at me or tell me that I’m a bad girl and God will punish me. Should I follow my own path when I turn eighteen?
2007-10-23 14:03:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should definetly follow your own path. It's your life, and you only get one, so you should live it to the fullest.
I was/am in a situation similar to yours. My family is very Christian, and when I was 14, I came to the conclusion that God doesn't exist. I'm 17 now, and I still go to church every Sunday with my family, to make them happy. They don't know I'm an atheist, and they won't know until I move out of my house and have started my own life. But, I think by then they'll be able to see that I am an adult who can make my own decisions. So, maybe your parents will be able to do the same and they'll be able to respect your decision. If not...then, well, shame on them for being so close-minded.
2007-10-23 14:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Your Highness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not Muslim and I am ashamed to admit that I do not know much about it. But our chldren had Muslim friends (males and females) in middle school and high school. They were great kids and were not so restricted as you are. They grew up to be lawyers, teachers, occupational therapists, etc. I feel you must follow your parents wishes until you are 18. After that I"m sure that you can find a way to reach your dreams without completely sacrificing your religion, family, and friends. Our children's friends did. Good Luck.
2007-10-23 22:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should follow your own path when you turn 18, most definitely. If you dont you will ne miserable and unhappy your whole life filled with regrets.
Never regret what you have done in life, only what you have not done.
Do it.
If your parents truly love you (and they do) they will come around to your way of thinking. But they will need time. Time enough for you to follow your own path in life.
Good Luck.
2007-10-23 21:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Until you turn 18, you have to listen to them. Just wait till you are 18. Perhaps you will impress them when you end up doing the things you want to do. One can only hope.
2007-10-23 21:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow your heart!!
2007-10-23 23:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋