ok im 16 and im pregnant and my fiance has changed alot since i found out i was pregnant....is it my hormones that changes his hormones...
i dont know???? well i need answers and i need to know why he is like this???
also it was a planned pregnancy.....
thank you for your opinions and answers!!!
2007-10-23 12:59:11 · 24 answers · asked by Kaidence's Mommy!! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just so every one knows this...
i didnt put a question up to be criticized
about being a young mother.
none of you know anything about me,
so please dont judge!!!!
i just want answers not judgments!!!
thank you all who gave real anwers tho!!!
2007-10-23 13:14:07 · update #1
Wow, SLOW DOWN HERE.
You're SIXTEEN and you're already engaged and expecting a baby?
Honey, you're wasting your life.
You should've waited a couple of years.
It won't last. Give it a year or two and you'll be a teenage mother living on your own scrounging benefits off the government. People like you make me angry.
2007-10-23 13:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Ok, this is a hard one. All though the pregnancy you say was planned he could be having second thoughts. It a lot of responsibility for anyone that is young. Heck, I was 21 for my oldest and knew from the start that I should not have let it happen. Talk about it with him. Also, I do know that sometimes, if 2 people are close the other not the pregnant one will feel the emotional changes, morning sickness, etc. It goes to feeling sympathy of what is to come for the pregnant one.
Not sure if this helps but it's my thought.
2007-10-23 13:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Just Want To B Me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, there are what's called sympathetic pregnancies, where he takes some of the pregnancy feeling on him.
There's also the fact that pregnant women can be very demanding and self-absorbed. Anything in your behavior that could be causing his behavior as a reaction?
Then there's also the stress of becoming a father. Maybe he didn't really want a kid, but probably he did. Whether or not, now it is a reality, not just a desire. Maybe he's questioning his ability to be a father, or the head of a household. I mean, he's probably young if you're so young, so maybe he's doubting his maturity and ability.
2007-10-23 13:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by jigga_22 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A "planned pregnancy" at 16? You're an absolute idiot. I'm sure he's realizing all the things that everyone else here has pointed out:
1) He's going to be a father
2) His teenage years (and 20's) of being carefree are now nonexistant
3) If he's your age, he will never finish high school, and won't be able to go to college because he now needs to drop out and get a job to support your dumb @$$ and the baby
4) He's stuck with your dumb @$$
5) He has no life now
6) If he's over 18, even if you consented, he's going to go to jail for statutory rape.
Makes you feel real happy, doesn't it? Now, ask the question again, and I'm sure you'll find your answer right away.
2007-10-23 13:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
ok, I'm not going to even address that fact that you're 16 and "planned" a pregancy...
But the true answer is, because he's an idiot and still a child himself (I hope).
ok, maybe I will address it. i guess it has it's benefits... When your child is 16 you'll only be 32 and you can start living your life then...
but, why o why do you want a child right now? Have you gotten to know who you are yet? believe it or not, 16 ain't grown, no where near it.
anyway, he's probably trippin cause he feels "trapped" and "tied down" and that "maybe I'm too young for this". heck, he might be regretting his decision if it was a planned pregnancy. was it a mutual planning?
well I wish you the best, don't let him stress you out. remember that whatever you feel, the baby feels too. (that means physically and emotionally)
2007-10-23 13:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by aDeviKreates 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are so young to be having babies. Maybe he's thinking of all the things he's going to miss. An education, dating, chance for a good job before you start a family. Maybe he wasn't really expecting the ball to fall. I remember at your age thinking how romantic having a baby with my boyfriend would be and we'd get a home and good jobs. Thank God we weren't that stupid. Reality is going to hit you soon because no matter how old you are or how prepared you think you are its a BIG responsibility. Believe me there isn't anything romantic about colic, poopy diapers and lack of sleep. Good Luck because right now you haven't a clue what you are in for. That baby is going to need you 100%. There isn't anything more wonderful than a child but being a parent is a full time job. He's probably thinking it isn't what he wanted after all. Sixteen isn't mature enough to bring a life into the world. Kids raising Kids.
2007-10-23 13:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You planned to get pregnant at 16? Why?
How old is he? If he is your age he is probably having 2nd thoughts and realizing he is 16 and will never date, kiss, like or be able to really flirt with another girl ever again. I mean is that really what you want too?
What about college? And getting jobs and trying to be an independent person? You are missing important stages in your life, and he is probably realizing that.
2007-10-23 13:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hmm. Sounds like he is having sympathy emotions. Some men get the cravings, the mood swings and go through the same things the woman goes through but of course on a lighter scale.
He probably needs some time alone to get through the 'PMS' he is feeling. He could also be having cold feet. This is common in men when they make committal decisions.
Be patient...what will be will be.
2007-10-23 13:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i dont think that was a smart move on your behalf. i feel pregnant when i was 16 and it was all good until i turned 18 and my friend were getting jobs and travelling and going out enjoying their lifes, i was robbed of my childhood, maybe your boyfriend has relised this or maybe he is stressed cause as the father he has to find a job to surport this child. there are alot of things for him to worry about, living arrangements, financial surpport, is his family for or against it? you just need to look at the bigger picture, all of it.
2007-10-23 13:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by kaz07 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your 16 for f**k sake,why would you want a baby so early in your
life.You have not grown up yet and are little more than a baby yourself.You have all your life to get pregnant.Your fiance is an idiot for getting you this way.Where do you live,i will come round to your place and slap him real good.
2007-10-23 13:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by J. 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋