how to reassure my ex boyfriend? guys, i need advice!!!?
my boyfriend of 3 yrs recently dumped me. he is threatened by my independence. he feels emasculated and disrespected by my other male friends and independent life of him. he is 37 and im 25.
im sooo in love with him and love him to death. i would do anything to get him back. its been 15 days since we last spoke to eachother. im deathly afraid of making a wrong move.
if i call him, i dont want him to think that i cant respect his decision or appear "clingy or desperate".
if i dont call him, i dont want him to think i no longer want to be with him or am with someone else
please help me.
confused hopeless romantic
2007-10-23 12:37:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You will get over him soon, we feel that way with almost every boyfriend, but he will become old news when you get a new one.
You say that he dumped you because of your new found independence, right? Then perhaps he likes the clingy type... Something you obviously don't want to be. Look, if a man can't stand the way you are, then you're not going to appease him until you change. Are you willing to restrict your life because of him?
well I think the 12 year difference is a problem to, he is at the stage where he wants to "settle down" and you're at age where you just begun.
I suggest to take a break from dating, understand what you want in a relationship, and then with a new understanding, find the guy that can be with you. It's not that hard.
2007-10-23 12:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by klokd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a quick call, to let him know that you care about his well being(don't tlak about the relationship ending), don't tell him you love him, he already knows that, be polite but to the point! And relax, most men would like a lady who is independant, and not needy,helpless,etc. If this is over, move on! Theres someone out there for you!! good luck
2007-10-23 21:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋