what do you think of teenage pregnancys ?

Question

well for you that says hope im not pregnent coz i cant spell it.. no im not pregnent i hav a child already and iv just misscarried my second. im 19 working still with the father who is also workin so no i didnt do it for a flat off the council as we hav bought our own home.. we r engaged and hav a beautiful daughter

Answer 1

I got pregant at 16 im now 22 and have an awesome 4 1/2 yr old boy...i married the father of my son...we've been married for 4 yrs....together for 6 yrs. My husband is working himself up in the navy and we have a very comfortable life! I dont recommend teenage pregnancy but i also dont think its the end of the world...you just have to grow up very fast and get your priorities in order. It's not about you anymore...it's about your child and making his or her life the best it can be!!

Answer 2

There's no need today to have kids at an early age. The birth control options are there, that you can go at it like bunnies and not have to worry. So having children is either a conscious decision, laziness, or an accident.

Accidents happen. Then you have to decide what to do.

Laziness - well, if you can't manage to control your own reproduction properly, what sort of paren are you ready to be?

So that leaves a conscious decision... If you have your whole life, and you aren't planning to have more than say 2 or 3 kids at the most, what's the hurry? Enjoy life. Experience thing that you can't do with children - party, travel, live with the other person and see if you two get along. Odds are the one you doink at 16 isn't the same one you'll be living with at age 30. be sure first - you owe your kids a stable home.

Then there's money. Usually, making good money means you need an education. That's hard to do if you spend all your time earning money to feed a family. Finish your education first.

The last thing is maturity. Some people are mature enough to be parents at 15, some never are - but usually it comes with age. It's the ability to tolerate others, to handle problems, to keep your cool and your temper when problems arise...

Answer 3

Honestly, I think people freak out way too much about them. We have uteruses, we are sexually inclined animals, we are built to bring on the next generations and keep our species alive. I don't think that is anything to be ashamed about.

If you are a teen, and you are considering getting pregnant, I would advise you wait a little bit in order to make financial preparations for raising a child, AND make sure that the father is someone you can see yourself getting along with for at least the next 20 years. You may not marry him, but you will have to deal with him.

If you are a teen that is pregnant, don't be overwhelmed. Times have changed. It used to be that a woman had to put off college when she had kids, but now a days you have the internet and access to taking most (if not all) of your classes on line. If you think you are not ready, let me tell you, at NO age is anybody "ready." Keep focused on school, love your baby, and develop a network of people who you will be there you (parents, friends, relatives..)

I was a teen years ago when I gave birth to my first child. I won't say it was easy, but a child gives you unconditional love, and that unconditional love pulls you through. It was the most life changing event I have ever witnessed. Had I not gone through with it, I probably would have not had the same drive to further my education and own my own business today.
My daughter is now 18 and attends college, we have a wonderful relationship.

It's really not the end of the world.

Answer 4

Well it's not a good idea to plan one but if it happens it happens. As a former teenage parent it is definately not what I want for my children. I know what you miss out on as a teenage parent and how hard it is...jobs, bills, relationship problems, no free time, just to name a few of the problems.
But, I am definately one of the lucky ones, my boyfriend at the time is now my husband and we have four beautiful children. We've been together for 15 years now and are very happy with our lives. But my story is not the norm of what happens to people who have kids as teenagers.

I do think it's funny how some people are saying it is due to a lack of sex education that a teenager would get pregnant. That is a ridiculous and uneducated statement. The girls who were pregnant at the same time as me all had sex education and 90% of them planned to get pregnant.

Kids have PLENTY of sex education. The girls I knew were lonely and wanted to get out of there parents house or keep there boyfriend. They knew exactly when to not use a condom thanks to the wonderful sex education they recieved in school.

Answer 5

It's gotten way out of hand. Teenagers need more supervision. Even though some teen parents turn out great, they're happy, and doing well for themselves, that's pretty rare. Even if you're more mature than someone else your age, it does not mean you're ready for that responsibility. Life in itself is hard to deal with when being a teenager, you don't need to make it harder by having to take care of a child. You DO have control whether or not you get pregnant (unless of course you're rapped, that's completely different)

Answer 6

I think it all depends on the woman having the child personally. A lot of people don't have the slightest clue what life is about yet as a teen, and by having children, they're missing out on alot in life. I personally have known a few teens to have babies, one of them being a wonderful parent, the others being useless, dumping baby off at gramma's because mom cannot give up her party life. I think if you have your priorities straight, and you're financially set enough to take care of a little one, then you should do what makes you happy but please just think hard about it, because later you'll be fishing for the teenage life you missed out on, and neglect your precious baby.

Answer 7

i wouldn't encourage it to my friends or anybody but it's all about how u carry yourself and how and/or if u step up 2 the plate and handle your newfound responsibility.. of course it helps ALOT when u have the support of your family and the baby's father... i should know i'll be a mom in a few months and i'm only 16, different people will have different opinions about it but it's something that you don't have any control over. And for those of you who are curious, I FULLY intend to and WILL finish high school and graduate with honors and attend college afterwards... and no I'm not wishing or hoping that that happens, it will. Like I said earlier, it helps when you have the support of those who love you.

Answer 8

I see a scared little girl who was trying to be an adult and now has to reap what she sowed. When I see teens WANTING to get pregnant, I want to slap them silly.

Babies don't make things all better. They don't make your boyfriend stay with you. They don't give you the love you need. They aren't easy.

They require a lot of money (uninsured, a baby will cost you $10K for the birth alone) not to mention the cost of getting your GED or childcare, diapers, etc. And you can't afford one working 10 hours a week at minimum wage.

They require a lot of attention. A baby cries and screams and NEEDS you. They are a parasite for 9 months inside of you and for years outside of you.

Answer 9

Children raising children is what I think...with some girls it works while others it does not. It all depends on the maturity of the person. The ideal time for most women to raise children is late 20's or early 30's.

Answer 10

I think they are terribly sad. A teen age mother is making life a hundred times more difficult for herself, limiting her opportunities and limiting her child's opportunities. A teenage father has no chance to further his education, no chance to build a solid career. He's almost always doomed to a minimal wage job because he lacks marketable skills.
Teen age marriages seldom last, which means the products of these marriages will be raised by single moms, so all in all, there isn't much going for teenage pregnancies.