What made you decide you were ready to have a baby?

Question

Me and my partner are thinking of starting a family soon. I was just curious to see what made you decide you were ready. Was it a financial descision, emotional etc.

Answer 1

1) Financial: Our only debt was our mortgage and we had saved $5K for baby expenses. He had a stable job, I was graduating from school.

2) Emotionally: We had been married for 5 years, and we had emotional support of our families (most of them).

3) Physically: I had dropped down to a healthy weight and had done genetic counseling as we had a miscarriage the month before we really started to try.

Answer 2

Well, I had the choice taken out of my hands when I was 18, and 18 is way too young to have a baby. My suggestion is to get a puppy first--if you can handle being up nights with the puppy, and the responsibility of having to change your lifestyle to let the dog out, clean up after it, pay vet bills, etc. then think about a baby. I know that sounds silly, but it will give you an idea. Babysitting over night--or better for a weekend for a little one also gives you and idea. I know I was a much better parent in my 30's then when I was 18--and I missed a lot having kids so young. Make sure you have done all the things you want to, because having kids is another full time job--everything in your life will change. Having kids is a wonderful experience, but unless you are in a relationship you expect to last forever, don't even consider it. My oldest turned 18 today, and it has been a really long road gettiing him there. Very rewarding, but very trying also!

Answer 3

My first I can't really say. I was one that never wanted to get married or have kids. It just wasn't for me. But I met my husband and everything fell into place. It just felt right with him and I felt ready to marry. Shortly after we were married we talked about having kids. I didn't want them but then one day I woke up and really wanted a baby. It was like my mother instinct kicked in or something. So we decided that if god wanted us to have a child we would have one. We weren't trying but we didn't try to prevent it either. A few months later I was pregnant.

I am 33 weeks pregnant with our second child and this one was a surprise. We weren't trying to get pregnant and even tried to prevent it. But things happen. I knew I wanted more kids just not yet. My 2 year old was enough for me for awhile. But obviously god had a different plan for our lives. And we couldn't be happier.

If you are in a stable relationship and feel you can support a baby then I say go for it. As long as you and your partner are on the same page about the subject. Good luck

Answer 4

It was a knowing. I knew I was with the right man, I knew I was married and could provide all a child needed. I knew it was right.

Thats how I knew the time was right. Just a knowing.

Ive always known I wanted kids, once I was married and in a stable home. Thats what I sought, thats what I found, and now I have my first son.

Bravo is right, a lot of it is DECIDING you're ready. Making the choice that you are ready.

Answer 5

Seeing all of our friends get so much joy from their kids. We've been married for three years and decided we were ready. That doesn't mean that I;m not scared. I'm very nervous about how much this baby is going to change our lives. I know it will be worth it though.

Answer 6

i don't know very much about having babies, but all i can tell you is what i think.

i think that if you are in a committed relationship with the person that you love and you know for sure that you both want a child, and can most certainly pay for one than go for it. i see how my mother who is a single mother struggled to pay for my brother and i as we were growing up and i know for sure that i would never want to do that to my children. i believe that children should only be brought into a loving family that is able and willing to pay for all of there needs, like diapers and formula when they're little, folders and backpacks when they start school, and then afterschool activities like band, choir, or sports when they start highschool.
i wish you and your partner the best luck in the world!!

Answer 7

When I got the positive pregnancy test! Honestly, knowingat my boyfriend (now husband) was never going to leave me no matter what happened. I guess when we got so comfortable with each other that we stopped using birth control. It was an emotional decision. We were definately not financially ready (still arn't 3 kids later!).

Answer 8

After 4 years of moving back and forth for each other, living with my parents doing the long distance thing i decided to move to the city where he is at. i bought a house he both got decent paying jobs and love one another very much so we decided we would have a baby togther. I've always known i was going to have kids with him, and i couldnt imagine myself with anyone else and i asked him this question and he said the same thing, besides making babies with him is fun LOL

Answer 9

well i had my first sont in 1978 whan i was just 14 years old in was scared what my father would do but instead of the worst to come he helped me in my girl friend out in as shoched that he did this but it was ok with both of us with no problems at all in raised him the best way we could my parent helped us in till we were both 20 watching him free of charge well we have 3 more children added to are family now

jon-28 first child 6-78
james- 4-89 18 years old
jackie- 4-90 17 years old
johnathan- 8-91 16 years old

we only have 2 children staying at home right now with us in have 3 gran children

Answer 10

When I was 30 years old with my 3rd. boyfriend. I saw him as the father for my baby and as a husband, still nowadays after 10 years of marriage, a wonderful man. At that time I wanted a husband nor only a boyfriend. I was already graduated with a stablished job and very healthy and with God everywhere.