30 is too old to have a baby? I am so sick of hearing women I work with going on about how 30 is too old to start having kids?! Of course they are all 22-25...and so here I sit minding my business and one of them starts running off at the mouth about 30 being too old to start having kids...so I chime in with "well don't I feel bad I'll be 32 next month and I'm pregnant with my first guess I'm too old to bring a child into the world"...what is wrong with people?!
2007-10-23 11:02:37 · 18 answers · asked by Notagain 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There is no better age than at 30. You are not too young, not too old, your body is perfectly healthy and ready, and you have done your things, traveled, partied, etc. Your chances of being mature enough increase, IMVHO.
Of course people will always vote for what they do. If you see a girl having a baby at age 18, she'll say it's the best age. Just don't pay much attention to those comments, you're the one bringing a child ito the world at your age, not them. If they are not feeding you, or clothing you, what they say does not matter.
2007-10-23 14:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have learned from my doctor, it isn't that 30 is too old, but after age 30, there are more risk involved for you and your baby, such as a higher risk for the diabetes that you can get while pregnant, I have forgotten the name for it. But, the doctor will run test to make sure that all is well for mother and child, so it isn't really that great of a problem. Also remember, just because you feel fine, that doesn't mean that all is well. Some problems never affect the way that you feel, so be sure to go to the doctor on a regular basis no matter how you feel. And also a lot of the reason that they believe that 30 is "too old" is because most people do start their families at a younger age, but that don't make it wrong to become a parent at an older age.
2007-10-23 18:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Krazycowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what the preoccupation is. I hear that there is a higher risk of birth defects at 35 (not 30). I am 29 years old and this is my first full-term pregnancy. I plan to have more than one child and will be just as happy and excited to be pregnant again if I were 31,32,33,34, etc. Yes, most women do have children younger, but there is a rise of women who are having children in their mid to late 30's and I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. Godspeed and no worries!
2007-10-23 18:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Brooke S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its too old. I think its too old for me and my goals in life. I didnt want to be bitter and jaded from the work force and the world when I started have kids.
Plus I always thought farther than that generation, to my grand and great grand kids. My gramma was 38 when I was born, she's younger than my husbands father, which mean she is still active and fun and can enjoy and be enjoyed by her great grandson. My husband on the other hand, everyone in his family had babies in their 30's which means EVERYONE was soooo old and dying that he has no memories of anyone, and grew up feeling pretty alienated and alone.
That, and I didnt want to be retiring and becoming an empty nester at the same time. I like the thought of being 40 and possibly playing with my grand kids, not trying to survive middle age and elementary school kids all at once.
Its just a personal choice. Its quite common for women to feel the need to live their lives, succeed in their goals and reach their triumphs before giving it all up for starting a family. I think most women these days after actively starting families in their 30's.
on top of all that, I was kinda hoping to be done having kids by 30, since its so much more riskier for me and the baby. 30 year old eggs are much more apt to have compromised DNA than 20 year old eggs.
But like I said, we all weigh everything out and make our own personal decisions based on what we know to be best and right.
2007-10-23 18:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
30 is not too old to have children. In fact, 40% of couples in the US are waiting until after 30 to have kids. My bf is 35 and I really hope that we have kids some day.
having children after 30 just increases your chances of having birth defects, such as trisonomy and down's syndrome. Also, your chances of conceiving drecrease from 20% each cycle to about 15% each cycle over the age of 30.
2007-10-23 18:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Malina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and just had my first but I think that even I was a little young!! You have to experience your own life before you start teaching someone else how to live theirs!! Hell I still have so much to learn and now I'm a MOM..the most important role there is!!! And to be honest I would have been devestated to have had a baby before I got to Live a little....those women, girls I should say, have no idea what they are talking about.....good luck with your baby, make sure to pass on all your 32 year old knowledge to your little one!!!
2007-10-23 18:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by amber_91w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a 26yr old pregnant with my first I have to admit I wanted to get started before 30. Having that said my mother was still having kids at 39 and is doing ok with it. My youngest brother is 6. I have to say she will admit she had more energy with me but more patients with my brothers now that she is older.
There is an up side and a down side to either choice although I don't think either way you decide to do it is wrong.
2007-10-23 18:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doctors say that it is harder to conceive after 30, and your risk for having a child with a disability is higher if you wait longer. That doesn't mean that 30 is 'too old'. It's just statistics, and every woman is different.
So CONGRATULATIONS on your first pregnancy. I know plenty of women who want to wait until they are past their 20's to start having babies. It gives you more time to get your life in order, and you are mature enough to raise a child.
2007-10-23 18:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sounds Painful 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Too many people think what is best for them is best for everyone. I hear all the time that I am way too young to be married with kids (married @19, 1st kid @ 21 & 2nd on the way @ 23) and for many people that is not at all the right choice but it was perfect for me and my hunny. I have been told that no one under the age of 30 should ever have kids. I think that there is a perfect time for everything that is different for everyone. People need to quit assuming whats right for me is right for everyone. And you and I should switch circles so that everyone agrees with us, since we are both right.
2007-10-23 18:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Diana 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it's not too old. I'm pregnant with my first and I'll be 29 this week. (Almost 30!) It's after 35, that the risks go up.
2007-10-23 18:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by emmy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋