yelling mom?

Question

ok im grounded because i have bad grades and i have so called "no respect" but i try very hard in school but ive never been the smartest kid. and my mom always! uses the excuse that i have no respect and not acceptable grades for the reason i cant do anything with friends. i have like no social life and she exspects me to be the nicest kid when the only time i get out is for school. what can i do to make her understand i want to spend time with my gf and friends outside of school and i try in school and when i bring these things up she always feels the need to yell about everything then i yell back and i get in trouble.

SHES RUINING MY SCOAIL LIFE

did i not metion even if i get good grades she will find a reason to not let me have fun stop talking about my godam grades

did i not metion even if i get good grades she will find a reason to not let me have fun stop talking about my godam grades

did i not metion even if i get good grades she will find a reason to not let me have fun stop talking about my godam grades

and plese only answer the questioni asked you jackasses

Answer 1

try to explain it to her and try to get better grades

Answer 2

Your Mother is not ruining your life, she is doing her job as a parent. Your job is school, and to get the best grades possible. And if that means less social time after school, and perhaps on weekends if your grades are poor, then you have to "work overtime."

Go see the school counselor and tell them you are having problems with your studies and ask if their is a tutor or mentor who can help you learn good study habits.

Good study habits means NO tv, radio, music, phone, computer play, Game Boy, friends, etc., during study time. Homework is study time and should be done first before any social time.

Yelling back will do no good as you have learned. Perhaps you could write a nice note or email to your mother and ask her to help you with your homework and to study better.

The grades you get now affect the rest of your lie. You want a good job or perhaps to go to college for an even better paying job, right? Well, study and do you job and when your mother sees you are trying and the grades are improving, perhaps your relationship will improve.

A parent's job is to provide their children with a good home, balanced meals, health care, attention, and making sure the children get the best education possible. And, again, it is your job to get good grades, not have the most friends in the neighborhood or school.

How do I know, because my Dad "hammered" the idea into my head and I now appreciate the education I got that lead to a great job and an independent life with loads of friends.

Answer 3

1st thing. How old are you? What grades are you getting? If your pulling d's & f's then I can't blame her for being upset about that. She wants you to succeed, and any kids getting those grades, is not trying hard enough. If you have some kind of learning disability, then you need to talk to you mom about that. If not, your slacking, and that is why you aren't getting any priveleges. Sometimes moms yell when they really aren't meaning to. She can be very stressed out about grown up things like bills, money, etc. No excuse to take it out on you, but if your nagging at her about going out, it is adding to her frusteration, and her only way to get you stop, is to be louder. You are expected to be a nice kid, because your a kid. When your 18, act any way you want. My suggestion to you, is prove to your mom you can do better by bringing home better grades. Once she sees that, I bet you will get to do more. And don't give her attitude. As much as you want to, just bite your tongue, and do what she says. You will see a difference, trust me.

OKAY BUT YOU ARENT GETTING IT! Maybe thats why your grades suck because you don't listen. GRADES.GRADES.GRADES. Improve or be stuck in the house. Now you just sound like a disrespectful little punk. No wonder she yells at you. Maybe you need a boarding school.

Answer 4

Personaly i'd go live with a second opiton..
an aunt, uncle, grandparent, blah..
before you look into this talk to her a few more times(atleast three) about it. Be very direct(mention straight out you feel frustrated and isolated as if your prison is life and your guard is your mother) tell her she is driving you to a point that you are becoming unhappy and this must be changed. Childhood is a precious time of life and i agree she shouldn't be pushing you when you already are pushing yourslef.
Don't even bother telling her about your plans to move out.
(if you move out make it for a week and then come hoem and see if anything changes)
Don't tell your mom anything!!
Write down in a journal each conversation you have with her.
Write day 1(date) and what you tried to tell her then write her response. Don't do this infront of her just do it in your room or at school whenever you have free time in privacy. Try to explain atleast 3 times. DO NOT RAISE YOUR VOICE even as much as she earges you to don't or else she has a supposed reson for grounding you agian. If all those time the conversations don't work call an aunt or somone you trust in your family that you'd like to stay with for a while. Explain to the privatly about how difficult it is for you. When your mom looks for resons give her the journal you wrote. Do not alter anythign to seem worse in the journal. Make sure it is all fair.

My neice did this when she was having problems with her mom. She waited atleast a year to do this and i agree her mom was way overly protective and maybe even verbally abusive. But her situation was worse then yours. Be calm. My neice was about 16 when she did this so make sure it's not just somthimg you assume is a crisis. It may just be your age and your point of view. But if your around 13 then you sound about right.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Study. That's it. She can and will control your social life until your grades improve. That's the way it is. Spend the time getting smarter and you won't be dealing with this in a few months. Education is THE most important thing in your life right now. If you're unsure of what I'm saying, have a look at the people behind the counter at Walmart. They didn't think an education was all that important either. Good luck.

Answer 6

Always remember one thing, you are living off of her. She buys your food, clothing, and shelter.

The court says you are under your parents' control until you are 18 years old.

You can get a job, an apartment, and leave home when you are 18. BUT if you don't have any school learning, you are not going to get a job.

Next summer, get a part time job so that you will have some back ground for a better job when you turn 18.

Answer 7

Well first you should never yell at your parents for any reason... Yelling gets you no where as you can see...try sitting down with mom and talking like the young adult you want to be treated like...in a calm voice explain how you feel and why the grades aren't up to par...spending time w/friends is important but grades are more important....

Answer 8

Ask your mom to help with your home work that way she can see where your problem lies. As for the social life until the grades come up, even if it's just to C's you're stuck. In the words of Ben Franklin, Sooner a silent wise man than a loud mouthed fool.

Answer 9

I'm sorry if you feel your mom is not appreciating you. I have two teenage boys and I know that us moms get so caught up in everyday worries plus often physical tiredness, that we forget to take time out to find out whether our kids are really happy.

When one of my boys got very unwell recently I realized how important it was for them to be healthy and happy - much much more important than good grades.

Teens are a difficult time for all, no doubt about it. You want more freedom, your mom wants to protect you and give you the best start in life, she really does. But shouting will NOT sort it out, this I know for sure.

I wish your mom could read this and decide to take time out to really talk to you, and catch up with her son, so she can know the young man you are turning into.

Answer 10

If you're really having trouble in school despite trying your hardest, tell your mom and/or teachers that you need a tutor or some other extra help.

Do your homework first thing after school every day. Ask your mom if she'll make a deal - every hour you spend on homework = one hour you can spend with your friends or girlfriend.

Answer 11

she's probably upset that you don't have good grades because if you don't now, you'll never have a good life later. so to let her know that you'll be fine, make sure you can get through to her that you can bring your grades up. of course, the only way to do that is to actually study before tests and stuff. sucks, but so does life.
as for the attitude, you may be totally convinced that your attitude is fine, but you may not be aware that it's bad since it would probably be a habit so deeply ingrained into your brain. i know a couple of people like that, myself included.