There's this history teacher I have and he's young, attractive and really easy to talk to.Everyone who has him loves him.
But he makes me feel uncomfortable.
He comments on my clothes, and how they make him wish he " was 15 again" I didn't know what to say to that...
He massages my shoulders when he stands behind me..
one day he pulled up a chair and sat next to me to talk about a test and the whole time he rested his hand on my upper inner thigh.
He always asks if I want to hang out sometime on the weekend..
I dont know if it's just me, or if he is really being too touchy feely. What should i do?
2007-10-23 09:58:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You really should tell your parents about this. IMO this is inappropriate from what you are saying. If you are feeling uncomfortable about this you need to listen to your "gut". I have a 14 year old and I can tell you that if she told me this was going on with one of her teachers I'd be very concerned. Please talk to your parents or an adult you can trust.
2007-10-23 10:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by amy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right. His behaviour is totally inappropriate and you should definitely tell an adult as soon as possible- a parent or teacher perhaps? Don't worry about getting him into trouble - he's behaving in a way he shouldn't be and should be prevented from doing so. You are not responsible for his behaviour. He is.
In the meantime, if you have to attend his lessons, make sure you're not on your own with him.
It was a good idea to ask your question on here. Your 'gut instinct' was right. Good luck for the future.
2007-10-23 17:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He DEFINITELY should not be touching your thigh or massaging you or asking you to hang out on the weekend. His compliments are borderline, but his actions are definitely unacceptable.
Keep in mind that men take a woman's silence as permission. If you don't say "no", he'll assume you mean "yes." You need to push his hands away and tell him directly those comments make you uncomfortable.
Report this directly to the school dean and principal, and to your parents. No matter how "lovable" he is, he doesn't have the right to do this.
2007-10-23 17:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, you talk with your mom! Next, you try and see if you can change classes take your mom with you to do this and at this time you explain this to your school councilor trust me he has done this before and he's got his eye on you to be next. You are right in this and you have done nothing wrong you are a child. Please don't let him get away with this he has no right to touch you in any way what so ever and the statements he making are wrong. Please talk with your mom dad grandmom who ever you trust but just tell.
2007-10-23 17:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he is being a total creep especially by putting his hand on your thigh. I would tell your parents and the principle at the school.
2007-10-23 17:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by whuggie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's wildly inappropriate. He's grooming you to abuse you is what's happening. Responsible adult males don't say or do those kinds of things. Tell a trusted adult now, and get away from him if at all possible. Tell someone-PLEASE!!
2007-10-23 17:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the person who has written this knows the answer already. This behaviour would be termed "grossly unprofessional" bordering on "indecent".
2007-10-23 17:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by PollyN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely wrong. Tell your parents &/or anyone you feel comfortable talking about it to at school, counselor, principal or another teacher.
2007-10-23 17:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is way out of line for a teacher. You need to tell your parents. There is no telling what he might try to do next to you or someone else. Please tell somebody.
2007-10-23 17:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by tn2vegas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is right!! Tell anyone, someone, and everyone now! What he has done is already illegal. Dont let him go any farther. I am concerned for your safety.
2007-10-23 17:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by night_of_mystery29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋