My baby's father and I were talking on the phone a couple minutes ago and we began talking about well me being pregnant. I asked him, out of all people why did he think I was the one that got pregnant for him....I expected him to say something like "Because this is what God wanted" or something positive......instead he said "Because you're the only one who wasn't on birth control" WTF!!!! that response made me so freaking mad. And we just hung up the phone after that. Am I wrong for being this mad?
2007-10-23 09:38:59 · 21 answers · asked by Tnisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry for the sarcastic comments the father or your unborn child made. When I was pregnant with my first child my husband was ignorant and very stupid. I had the pregnancy of hell full of drama because I think some men don't understand how delicate the situation is. Thats until the baby was born he truly understood what being a parent is all about. Tell him that the baby its on its way and now is not the time to make sarcastic remarks, and to think about what he says before he says it. Congratulations on your pregnancy, please try your best to be calm. I know its frustrating but just think about your baby at this time.
2007-10-23 11:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First no don't let it get to you, that is probably what he wants anyway, fact is he was in some ways telling the truth you did get pregnant since you were not on BC however it does not mean that child is not a blessing. And to Valerie that posted an answer not all women that are not on BC can get pregnant but I am sure you know that, but she obviously does not. Or she speaks/types with out thinking. Good luck to you and the baby, no matter what that child is a sure blessing from God.
2007-10-23 16:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean come on... What kind of question is that to ask somebody. I don't think any baby's daddy would have given you the answer you were looking for - about it being what God wanted. Not to minimize the miracle of birth, but getting pregnant is no big thing. Especially if it wasn't "planned". And you're not even his wife. Good luck. Hope things work out.
2007-10-23 16:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. This is the response he should have expected with an answer like that, and a warning to you she this guy is not the person you perhaps thought he was. I am sure he will try to make it up to you but you need to consider whether you want someone either this inconsiderate or this much of a player in your life. Have the baby, file for child support and if this guy wants to be in your life or the life of your baby, make him earn the right by being there for you alone and no one else. Good Luck to you!!
2007-10-23 16:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're wrong. If you didn't want a truthful answer you shouldn't have asked the question. It's silly to say because god wanted it, or something of the like. You either use protection or you'll probably get knocked up. It's not magical or mystical just good old biology.
The better question is why do some women ask such silly questions.
2007-10-23 17:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Bull in a china shop 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! It takes two to tangle. You didn't get pregnant on your own. Even on birth control, there is always a chance. I am so sick of it always being the woman's fault and the woman's responsibility.
Now on the other hand, he probably was upset and said things he didn't mean or it came out wrong. As long as he isn't sincere, cut him a break. You're both upset and a little frustrated.
2007-10-23 16:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mad becasue you want him to be positive about having this baby with you and supportive
Tell him that
Making negative comments no matter how true they maybe is not a good way to be supportive to a pregnant women
tell him how he made you feel
2007-10-23 16:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by iampricelessru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL,Your looking for a responce about God from a player?Your just another notch on the bed post BabyGirl,and when you find out you have aids he will say it's your fault because you didn't make him wear a condom! I bet you think he will pay child support to don't you?
2007-10-23 16:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His response is scary, your not his only partner. He clearly isn't committed to you. He isn't even respect full to you. Being pregnant is a time you'll need support from your loved ones. This guy is clearly insensitive and playing around. Kick his *** to the curve. Who needs his arrogants.
2007-10-23 17:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by rachelrayrnr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are a Blessing from God but he had nothing to do w/ this. Your boyfriend shouldn't have said this, he was also involved. doesn't sound like he's thrilled to be a daddy yet.
good luck girl.
2007-10-23 16:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋