I mean every penny is kept track of and shown how it was used for the best interest of hte child.
I know of countless stories of how child support money is miss used by the custodial parent.
I had a co-worker who would plan trips around when she would get the child support check. This same person would then also nickle and dime the father to pay for everything. From how I saw things the child never received ANY of the extra stuff. For example my son went to the same school as her child and she called up her ex to pay $50 for a $19 yeak book and then I found out the kid never got the year book either.
Wouldn't be audited ever six months at least put a damper on this sort of wrong doing?
2007-10-23 08:58:01 · 17 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depending on the state, you can set up accounts where the child support payment goes into it. The parent with custody must show proof of how that money is spent. She gets 1/4 off the top to go to housing and food. The rest goes to the kids medical, dental or vision not covered by insurance, clothing, school supplies, etc. Any funds not spent at the end of the month roll over into an educational trust for the kids. There's a few other ways she can get some of the money but we've been lucky with our auditor and she's put a stop to the abusive side of it.
My husband set his kids up like that through the court and his ex hates him for it. Its a good thing he did since this summer the kids were telling us how their mother said he never provided for them so he took them down to the courthouse and showed them exactly where the money is and how it's divided up!
2007-10-23 09:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have thought for years that there should be some kind of system to assure that the children are the recipients of the 'child support' . And no I'm not some resentful new wife who has to deal with money leaving my home to support my husbands children. I have a child that never received even the $80 per month her father was ordered to pay in 1986. If I had received anything, I would not have had a problem with letting the Payer of the support know where it was going. I believe it would at least cut down on this kind of abuse, and I do think it is a form of child ABUSE.
2007-10-23 09:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by loggerswife 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. You would tie up the legal system so bad that no child would benefit from the child support. If that was in place, then a few more rules would be put in place such as, checking into what assests the non custodial parent has hidden or not reported to the state. How high on the hog is the non custodial parent living. How much exactly is this parent earning and not reporting to the I.R.S. How many times has the non custodial parent transferred assests to hide them. Then if the custodial parent is not providing for the child, then why doesn't the other concerned parent go to court and have the child seen by the mediator to find out the true facts? And in what state can your child get a yearbook for 19? Here it is 45-75. Sometimes higher.
2007-10-23 09:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by danelady7 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
your right again. that sounds fair!
check the funds but then if thats the case they may end up paying more when they see that just because it puts a damper on your pockets, it doesnt actually cover all of the childs expenses.
if you think you're hurting, imagine what the custodial parent is going through. they have to cover the rest of the expenses, then help the child with education, morals, manners, nightmares, sickness, relationships...
who helps them and also misses work=money, just to be there for them, who's using gas to drive them around and paying for repairs at home so they can be safe?
its true, there are some bad ones out there, but its good to remember your intentions and know that you did all you could instead of worry about what you cant do now because of child support, that's already the other parents reality!!
2007-10-23 09:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by badbitty101 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the parent paying child support to the drug addicted parent has the right to take that drug addicted parent to court for custudy of the children, in which case, the drug addicted parent would not have custody anymore and the person paying support would no longer need to... If the person paying support doesn't want custody, then no matter if the other parent is a drug addict or not, they deserve some kind of help from the other parent.
2016-04-10 00:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set rule for using the money she gets for support... i.e. lets say she gets $100 a week for Mary... Well up till this time Mary lives in a house that mom pays the rent, utilities and groceries for. And at times Mary goes to the movies or the park (more $) And clothes. So when mom gets the $100 she puts it in the bank. And one of the weekends that she gets the check Mary stays with grand mommy and mom goes to the shore, did she use some of the $100?: Maybe but in all reality its hers... Now do you see why your theory would not work? Have a great week Grant in Pennsylvania
2007-10-23 09:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Being audited wouldn't work. If the parent is going to lie to get extra $ Then they would be able to get around being audited. And besides all they would have to do is bring in a receipt for things like electric, food, car payment, house pymnt/rent, gas, medical bills, or just about any day to day bill. All this is used for or by the child. Your co workers ex needs to wise up and realize they are being taken advantage of. They could get the papers for things like pictures or yearbooks directly from the school all he's have to do is ask the school.
2007-10-23 09:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by just me 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
YES! I believe it should be. There are so many parents who cheat the other one because they feel they can. I was acutally just venting about my own situation. My boyfriend's daugher doesnt get anything unless we pay for it or his mother buys it for her. Her mother just takes the CHILD SUPPORT and rents halls for big parties and then has the guts to invite us to it!!! Or she goes shopping and then tells me how much she spent on herself (she is crazy and thinks we are naive) she spent $500 on HERSELF!!!! But we had to buy the child all new school clothes the week before that! Then when the child wanted to joing sports teams and stuff, we have to pay for that-the full cost, there is no splitting here and all uniforms and equiptment!
2007-10-23 09:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the times being a more involved parent will help you to make sure that the money that you are spending is getting spent for your child.
If I was the one paying the child support. I would not give any extra monies to the non-custodial parent if you said that my child needed something additional I would take the child and buy it for them
2007-10-23 09:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by iampricelessru 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No because there is a system out there but it doesn't work because of this.
She can use a certain percent on rent, utilities, food, gas, and even the car payment (I am allowed to use $75 towards my car payment because I drive her to school and pick her up everyday). Then any school fees, lunches, medical, etc.
My ex asked CS to make me provide receipts and they said after I paid rent, utilities, car payment, school lunchs, school fees, and gas that only left $100 and that was for food so no I did not have to provide any proof.
2007-10-23 09:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋