My previous GF was tall and had nice body. Although she expressed she loved me, she was kind of arrogant and wasn't much nice to me. Despite I loved her I broke up as we had so many arguments.
Lately I've been with a girl who is not very thin or pretty but is very kind and sensible. However I am not very sexually attracted to her.
I am 33 and looking for someone to settle with. I know both of them want to marry me. I have a dilemma which girl is the best to marry to?
Should I continue with my current girlfriend so It could grow my feelings towards her?
2007-10-23 08:55:23 · 47 answers · asked by blissmd77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Definitely don't marry the better-looking one. PROBLEMS.
If you don't have a woman's heart,
you are in trouble from the start.
If the other one is decent looking enough then sure. But a poor sex life can kill a marriage horribly.
My advice? Don't marry either of them.
2007-10-23 09:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you limit yourself to just these two? Think of it this way: If your wife got into a disfiguring accident, which one would you be happier to help take care of? Assuming all she had left was the personality and no longer her looks, either good or bad... You seem to have an interest in getting married. Has a Gypsy curse been put on you as a youth that makes you grow antlers or something if you're in fact not married by a certain time?(I wished I were a Gypsy from the time I can remember but since I think you have to be born into it, I'm out of luck.) Anyway, moving on... You sound like a decent person. You are looking for a wife. You should consider making YOURSELF happy by finding someone with whom you will be completely fulfilled for the rest of both your lives. You don't have to settle down this second. Take some time and meet the woman of your dreams. Otherwise, you could do yourself a disservice. You will find her...good luck!!
2007-10-23 09:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have children, which one would be a better mother in your opinion? Second you should not marry someone based on weight and their looks. Make your decision based on how you are treated. Why would you wanna marry someone who isn't nice to you is arrogant and constantly fights with you? Love or no love, that is no way to spend the rest of your life.
I will tell you though, I married the sensible one with a nice body , treats me like a Queen, very sexually attracted to each other and extremely kind...but we had many arguments too. We worked on it because we both wanted to make US better. If neither of these women are your cup of tea, then maybe you shouldn't marry either one. Good luck
2007-10-23 09:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry either. Kind and sensible is needed in a relationship, but so is sexual attraction. The previous gf, tall and nice body, but arrogant and not nice... the nice body could change and you'd be left with an arrogant meany and have no sexual attraction towards her either.
I'd definately wait it out and find someone new.
2007-10-23 09:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by ShaylaReznor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kindness will always be there, looks fade or can improve. You can grow to be sexually attracted to someone but you cannot put up with a person who is not kindhearted or it will end in divorce.
You said it above, your PREVIOUS GF, meaning it's over.
Move on and don't consider marriage unless your 100% your ready. 33 or 83, wait until your ready inside, these days there is no rush. :)
2007-10-23 08:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kari S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either is right for you. Why would you want to marry someone who is mean and arrogant and why would you want to marry someone you're not sexually attracted to? This is someone you're going to spend the rest of your life with. Why settle? And if you don't see your current relationship going anywhere and you're looking to settle down in the near future, why waste your time? Move on to someone who suits all of your wants and needs.
I think it's rude for someone to call you a pig for not wanting to be with someone you're not sexually attracted to. That's ridiculous. Sexual intimacy is important in a marriage.
No matter your decision, good luck!
2007-10-23 11:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not that into your current gf, don't waste her time, she deserves someone better who will love her and respect her despite her looks.
If you wanna argue and be with an arrogant individual for as long as your marriage will last, go for it!
If you want someone who is kind, sensible a good natured person, you make the choice ;)
2007-10-23 09:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is not to marry either one. I don't think you care enough about either of them to marry one of em. If you have a need to ask a group of strangers which one thats just like flipping a coin which isn't fair to either girl. Start over and find someone that you are truely in love with or the marriage will never work. don't be in such a rush to find the right girl
good luck
2007-10-23 09:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by blueeyd_princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these people who say to marry the ugly one. NO WAY!!!! If you are not sexually attracted to her...it won't work!!! I know this from personal experience. If you can't get it up, there is no point in the rest of the marriage. I had a wife who took care of my every need, except she did not float my boat in the sack. It just didn't work. Everything else she would do just annoyed the hell out of me because I wasn't attracted to her sexually.
2007-10-23 09:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just by the 1st sentance "My previous GF was tall and had nice body"...means to me you should not get married at all. You sound like kind of a jerk that is not ready for marriage...you will probably just cheat on her anyway.
Does the poor girl your with now know how you feel about her? Do you and her a favor and end that relationship!
NEVER MARRY IF YOUR FEELINGS NEED TO "GROW" TOWARDS HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow and people wonder why the divorce rate is so high.
2007-10-23 08:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Knome Lover 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋