AMANDA is not on her meds and she wants to get stuff has been bouncing back and force thought lows and highs hardly ever do i feel she is level she takes alot of stuff out on me and our kids (we have 3 young kids) she always wants to jump into a divorce she dosent want to depend on meds to live a normal life she feels she can do it with out them
2007-10-23 08:50:01 · 8 answers · asked by amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been bipolar for 10 years and I have gone to hell and back several times, I have also put my family through a lot.
One thing I know to be shared by most bipolar people is that at times we loose sight of what is important to us in life. There are times when we just stop feeling, stop loving our partners, out pets, our jobs and mostly stop loving the person we have become. Those times do pass of course but it is hard on the people around us.
Amanda's problem is that she is avoiding to accept that she is bipolar. No one is strong enough to deal with this disorder on their own. It is much easier if she thinks it is just like any other acute illnes, diabetis lets say!
First thing you will have to do is getting her the right psychiatrist or pdoc as we like to call it. Look for a good one, meaning, look for one that has experience dealing with bipolar disorder. It is very hard to find the right doctor but you will, there are a lot of good pdocs out there. The pdoc will be responsible for the meds.
Then you need a good psychologist/therapist one that will preferably work with the pdoc when meds are being switched or doses changed. The therapist is the one she talks to and the one that uses different techniques to stabilize her.
Getting stabilized might take a while also finding the right meds can be hard for some people. However, there are a lot of meds right now and a lot to choose from. I have been on meds for about 8yrs and I am glad to say that I have reached to the point when I have the right meds. For me it is Lamictal which I am happy with it - works and it has no or very little side effects.
I can assure you that meds and therapy will make the world of difference and do your best to make her to give it a shot.
Using meds to control bipolar disorder doesnt make one a weak person, far from it, it makes one a person that has realised they have a problem and they are dealing with it.
Best of luck to you and your wife.
2007-10-25 07:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by millie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a person who is bipolar for 20 yrs. The ups and downs are a normal part of the disease. But if it continues to go untreated, bipolar disorder will get worse as the person ages. That is why I am not married anymore. He also thought he could do without the medication. I was like you I lost sight of who he was and who he was when the disorder took control. I am not telling you what to do but I personally threw in the towel. Bipolar disease affects the cognitive abilities therefore the decision making is impaired.
Chances are one or more of your children may show signs of the disease also.
2007-10-23 09:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Marjorie O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably not happy in general, so if she can't be happy alone, why would she be happy w/ you? It's important not to take things personally when she is in her ups and downs.
I would go to family counseling. I think it's admirable that she doesn't want to be on meds, and that you want to support her, but if she doesn't want meds, she needs help of some kind until she has a better grasp of things.
2007-10-23 09:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that takes some balls to create an account with your wife's name just to ask this question.
I think you should seek couples counseling and ask a professional ASAP!!
2007-10-23 08:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her DR, and ask him to tell her the importance of taking her meds. She has an imbalance in her brain and it is NOTHING to be ashamed of.
2007-10-23 08:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're pretty angry and disgusted. Get into counseling with her. If she doesn't agree, go alone.
2007-10-23 09:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by summerquilt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be better off to just get away from her.
2007-10-23 08:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her into counseling
you need to take the kids Out of this, it will warp them!
2007-10-23 08:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋