my husband and i have a great relationship, wonderful daughter, nice house, cars, and way to many animals. im happy and content in our life. my husband on the other hand is pushing for a 2nd child. the prob being he has not given up any of his fun or extra stuff. i on the other hand have happily given up things like getting my hair and nails done monthly, clothes shopping, tanning etc. my husband buys what he wants when he wants, such as appliances, furniture (that we dont need) season tickets to sporting events, weekly lunches with his friends, he even picked up and went to florida for a long weekend with his buddy. i work steady days he works swings so he is only there in the morn and night every 3 weeks other than that its me taking care of daughter and 7 dogs. i dont feel i can handle another child. question is if we have another child does it get way harder everyone says it will all come together financially and emotionally but does it?
2007-10-23 08:48:33 · 8 answers · asked by princess 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would not give into him. Why are you the only one doing all of the sacrificing? He needs to grow up and you need to make him. He is also selfish. He needs to have more responsibility with your daughter. You need to have some time for yourself. Leave her with him and go out and get your nails and your hair done. See some friends, go to a movie, whatever. Things usually do come together financially and emotionally but in your case I would say it will not. What he has is a house maid and a nanny that also earns money for him. Demand equal treatment girl.
2007-10-23 09:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will get much harder, two kids are more than twice the work. It doesn't sound like the financial side will be so much of a problem for you, but you will be totally exhausted resentful taking care of a second kid you don't want. You have to talk to your husband and tell him that if he wants a child, he better be prepared to be a father.
2007-10-23 16:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by growing inside 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having two children is only slightly more to deal with than having only one. Sounds like your husband needs to grow up some. In a word -- COMMUNICATION!
On the other hand, being an only child can be quite lonely. Aside from you and your husband, would a second child be a boon to your current child? Mine was.
2007-10-23 15:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..... Your husband is a one way coniving scoundrel.. The answere to another baby should an emphatic NO!!!!! As far as him going away for the weeken with a buddy what is all that about? Did he call you while he was there... When you are at work what is he doing? Cant he spend a little time with his own child and the seven dogs....??? He sounds pretty self centered.... I wish you well my dear... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-23 15:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, its too obvious that you're doing more than he's even thinkink about and you need to let him know that you cannot go on any longer in this manner.
If you cannot make him understand how you feel about this then the relationship clearly has no future.
tell him to shape up or ship out!
2007-10-23 16:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by ღMYSTERYWOMANღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him what you just wrote here. You can't handle any more on your plate. Unless, he is willing to give up or make changes in his life it is a firm no.
2007-10-23 15:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tarheel mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that until he grows up then don't have another child.
2007-10-23 15:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point blank...children cost money...and if you wait until you can afford them...you would not have any...
2007-10-23 15:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋