Mental Abuse of a 17 year old! What can HE do?

Question

My boyfriend is mentally abused! I'm not over exaggerating, nor am I saying this only because I'm a childish minor who is trying to 'fight the power'. He's a good guy, who's 17, does his school work, has a job at a book store, and is all around a blessing to any parent (say my parents). However his mother is not a good one in my belief.

This lady is in her late 50's with a 17 year old son. She has no medical care for him or herself, she has no actual job- but she gets $500 a month for child support. Her current living area is with her soon to be ex- husband (my boyfriends ex-step-father), and this isn't permanent.

She has left her son home alone before for over a day, and left only a note saying *feed the cats I'll be out for awhile*. Later through his friend he found out that she went to Upstate New York! (I'd like to note that this takes place in Brooklyn New York, and she went to Plattsburg.)

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Alright many are saying there is no actual mental abuse. Does calling over a fake cop to scare him and tell him she's allowed to be him *shi*less* count? How about the fact that this lady calls him a monster who's dating a b!tch and who's parents are just trying to buy him. Or the fact that to add, she has two reports of child abuse already on her from two different states. Or, possibly the fact that she throws tantrum goes into his room and throws down shelfs and takes his sword and throws it at another shelf. Or the fact that he actually had to physically restrain her because she started destroyiing everything and anything because he was on the phone with me! Oh, and to add, she's sttempting to put a restaining order against me and my family so we can't see her son. This kid has actually broken down and saw his step-father and just cried today. She called up my father at work and told him how he was father to a ***** and how she is putting a restraining order against us.

is their honestly nothing he can do to get away from her. He has no family, and often no way to keep in contact. When she up and left they were in an argument. she took the computers power cord awhile back, and his phone had been disconnected long before. He had no way of contacting anyone her, because she chose to turn her phone off. He thought she up and left. When they argue she acts like a child, and even when he asks if they can sit down and discuss things- she winds up yelling and storming off (this is just when he asked to discuss things.)

So really, is their nothing he can do?

Answer 1

So far I'm not seeing any mental abuse. I don't believe that leaving a 17 year old alone for a day constitutes abuse. Should she have told him where she was going and how long she would be gone? Sure. Does it amount to mental abuse? No. Unless there is much more to this story, I'm not seeing anything.

Answer 2

Okay, hun, Everyone was responding to your first part which actually does not show any signs of mental abuse. You should have included the latter parts. He's seventeen, leaving him alone is not wrong in any case and that's what they were replying too. The fake cop, saying she can beat him, calling him a monster, or other names is verbal abuse. he can talk to a school counselor, an officer or even a social worker to see what he can do and what his option are if these things are injuring him mentally.

Though, to give you an reassurance, I don't think she can get a restraining order against you unless you've been harassing her or causing her harm.

Answer 3

What abuse ? no longer letting you date pedophiles ? Or locking you in closets or windowless cellars ? Your entire absence of useful records shows that your father could understand what he's doing on account which you ask a question like a 12 300 and sixty 5 days previous fairly of 17 . Sorry , especially circumstances the certainty isn't relaxing >

Answer 4

Your bf's mom sounds like a real loser, and he is clearly not in a very good situation, but I don't know what he can really do (other than bide his time until he can get out of there). This is not "abuse" in the legal sense of the word, so there isn't anything to report to a Child Protection Agency. Any chance he has some other relatives who he can stay with?

Answer 5

That's not mental abuse. He's practically an adult now. It's not a good situation, really, but if he's making good grades, is holding a steady job, and has a girlfriend, I'd say he's pretty mentally stable. I think you need to calm down a little bit. He'll legally be able to move out in a year and then won't have to worry about it anymore.

Answer 6

I know that this is hard, I am a living example of a child of a father that was killed when I was 11 and a mother that was with another man when this happen, I had to go to school and get a job tp take care of my self, it got to the point that I got my GED and have worked ever since, I am now employed at the largest bank in the county I live in and married. So as hard as it may seem, it time to take care of himself and not depend on his mom.

Answer 7

There is nothing in your story that supports the charge of mental abuse. If the worst thing she did was leave a 17 year old by himself for an entire day and he feels abused he has other issues.

Answer 8

So she left him alone a "whole" day? AND asked him to feed the cats?? The heathen --- have her stoned!

It doesn't sound like an ideal living situation, but it sounds far from abuse.

Answer 9

This falls under the category of "Life ain't always fair, Honey"






Did he remember to feed the cat?

Answer 10

he could always do what i did at 17, move out and live on his own. END THE ABUSE