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On Saturday, my bf and I got into a huge fight that involved us screaming at each other outside (he's 24, I'm 23). Long story short, someone called campus police to quiet us down, and he broke up with me the next morning. He said that he still loved me and wants to remain friends. Well, last night, I received an e-mail from him saying, "I don't want to talk this week. We are not going to remain friends. I would appreciate it if you would leave me alone, and I promise to do the same." This is very hurtful coming from the guy who last week was asking me to tell him what kind of engagement ring I want (we've been dating for over a year). At any rate, I haven't tried to contact him or talk to him since Sunday.
Do you think he'll ever talk to me again? Do you think we'll ever get back together?
We have broken up once before over a similar incident (big fight, he dumped me), but I got an e-mail from him wanting me back over the summer. What do you think?
2007-10-23 07:59:42 · 15 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make him sweat it out a while longer, never give in to a man to quick it will make him appreciate your feelings in the long run..
2007-10-23 08:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People fight all the time, i was asking my girl what ring she wanted and the next day we fight and she said she don't want me to buy the ring anymore.
Long story short, during arguement, wrong words are going to come out. And you or he, anyone has to make the first move to said sorry.
I usually just be angry for 30 minutes and "beg' for forgiveness even though it is not my fault. I quess breaking up over stupid thing is just not worth it. Pride is important, but over 10 minute waiting out side on the street for me to pick up is not worth it. Girl, make up and getting dress take longer than that on every date (why I am late due to traffic once in a while, and I get yell at, Common be fair). Guy can be lazy and stubborn, but he is your guy. So saying sorry first has nothing to do with pride. For me, I guess saying sorry first has no problem for me, because I can get my girl back within an hour. If you or your bf don't say sorry, how long will you not talk to each other before you two break up?
Give him a call and said sorry first. You will be hugging him in no time, which is better than crying and feeling sad.
2007-10-23 15:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What do we think? About what? Do we know EITHER of you? No. Were we present at the argument? No. Are we privy to the details of your past relationship together? No. HOW then do you imagine we could tell you whether or not he's going to call you, let alone whether or not you'll get back together?
Seriously. Why are looking for predictions from a bunch of strangers in regard to a situation that ONLY YOU TWO have any influence on?
2007-10-23 15:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing right now is all you should be doing by not trying to contact him or talk to him at all. That's when he will start to wonder if he made the right decision and if he didn't, he will be back. Just try to get on with your life, because you might realize that you don't want him back.
The only time you will know how he really feels is when he doesn't know how you really feel.
Keep up the good work. Good Luck
2007-10-23 15:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him go. Leave him alone. Then follow these steps:
1. Calm down.
2. Grow up.
3. Love yourself.
4. Get a life.
5. Make new POSITIVE girlfriends.
6. Make yourself available to older, more MATURE men of good character, who are in control of their emotions.
Good luck!
2007-10-23 15:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by cpo2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two at the very least need time apart. You have broken up before (recently I see)...and now it has escalated to public disruption, ending in the second breakup. It is not a good sign when you guys end up being on and off repeatedly.
Take the time to be away from each other... mature for awhile and give him space. I am no psychic... it might work out and it might not. But for now it looks like this is best for you.
2007-10-23 15:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just move on....you say it has happened before (breaking Up) and it happened again.....do you want a lifetime of this? It sounds to me like he is over it with you and really is trying to move on, so you should do the same...judging by what you have written i see no future with this person. The arguing and breaking up/getting back together cycle is not a good relationship by any means.
2007-10-23 15:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only time could tell. Dont weep over him. You should get on with your life. You dont need someone who does this to you all the time. First of all you sound young since you say campus police. There are plenty of other guys out there for you im sure. I know you love him but sometimes love hurts.
2007-10-23 15:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like the two of you being as young as your are need to grow up in the sense that a fight caused you to break up...from what you have said it also sounds like this was his way of getting out of it since the police came it could have embarassed him enough to say good bye...best advice leave him alone...and move on!!!!
2007-10-23 15:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have had the same argument over the same thing stands to reason you have a major disagreement and the result is the same well move on it ain't working maybe some time in the future well who knows?
2007-10-23 15:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by peppersham 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋