Its not the same "down there"....How Are Kegel Excercises Done?

Question

Ok this is embareassing but I have to ask because I am quite concerned.....Yesterday my husband and I made love for the first time after 2months (since our baby was born) I was embareassed because I thought I would feel the same "down there" but I didnt.....Its not exactly "loose" down there but its not as "tight" as it was before I had my baby.....I want that "tightness" feeling again, and I was reading that Kegel excercises help tighten that area....the problem is I dont understand how they are done? Can someone please explain this to me? I also read that they can be done while sitting?...Sorry for my ignorance....Thank you for your answers..

Answer 1

They are really easy. Just squeeze the muscle you use to to stop the flow of pee.

It is recommended to to do about 5 reps of 10 at first and just keep increasing them as they get easier.

I have gotten in the habit of doing them all the time, it's not even conscience any more, I'll just notice that I'm doing them.

They do help, but it will take time, and it may never be the same as it was before. Hopefully it will be just as good, just different.

Answer 2

They should be done regardless of what you can feel, because they mainly affect the pelvic floor which is hiher han you can feel but essential for maintaining bladder control!

So do them anyway and I'm sure you will actually feel some benefits although take some time - 2 months is still prett early and you have pushed a baby through!

You know when you sit on the loo and you stop your wee mid-flow, perhaps to collect a sample or for any other reason....?! This is the action you use to do the kegels, but you shouldn't *actually* routinely stop your wee midflow as the urethra can be affected, but perhaps do it once or twice so you can check which muscles to use when you do do it.

it is best to do it sitting down, and it is suggested you do about 10 slow ones e.g. holding for a couple of seconds, then 10 fast ones, then 10 slow ones and build up from there every few weeks.

because it is easily forgotten, it is suggested you do it at a set activity each time like every time you are at the traffic lights, or waiting for a bus, or having a cup of coffee etc

it is important to do it a few times each day - 4 or 5 times perhaps.

check here for more info:

http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleId=1063

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/womenshealth/sui/pelvicfloor_005167.htm

Answer 3

Sorry to tell you, but chances are you won't feel "tight" down there again, unless you and your husband go a few years without having sex at all...
Kegel exercises are basically tightening exercises, the muscles involved are those that control urine flow. So imagine you are urinating and stopping the urine flow all of a sudden, do it a few times. Then try to do that exercise as many times as you can before letting go. It will help strengthen those muscles, but I don't think Kegels will ever make it feel like it did before you had a baby.

Answer 4

Ive heard it never feels the same. Joys of parenthood right? Kegal is done the same way you stop peeing. next time you go to the bathroom you can practice so you know what it feels like. Stop midstream and you will feel how you have to squeeze. Then work out the muscle the same way. Squeeze and release. Once you get the muscle worked out, you can do reps. Squeeze, hold for ten seconds, release. repeat. Its easy to do sitting down! You can do it while you watch tv or do anything really! Good luck! and congrats on the baby!!

Answer 5

Basically it is tightening the muscles down there. Imagine you really, really need to pee and can't, and tighten the muscles you would use to hold it in. Hold that for a count of 10 or so and release. Do 25 sets three times a day. I don't know if it tightens things as regards sex, but it helps with and preventing bladder slippage. No one needs to know you are doing it either, it's fine to do it sitting up.

Answer 6

Another thing you can do is buy the Kegelmaster exercise device. It really works. It will get you much tighter than regular kegels and it only takes 10 minutes per day. You and your husband will both be grateful. Look for Kegelmaster on the web.

Answer 7

I do the male version, and if I can suggest a way to remember to do them... Get a digital watch that you can set to beep on the hour. When the beep goes off, do kegels for 5 to 20 seconds, whatever your comfort level is.

I found that since they are muscles you almost never think of, it's hard to remember to work them. The watch trick helps.

Answer 8

while sitting or laying or standing for that matter pretend to stop the flow of an imaginary stream of pee.....hold that for a few seconds, release and do again.... that's your kegel muscle.... and the exercises help for lots of things... when I was in birthing classes many years ago... our instructor told us she practiced her kegel exercises at every red light she sat at and had been doing that for years.... good luck... it's not going to be the same because things are different....

Answer 9

Don't be embarrassed--there's no way you'd know unless someone told you. The best way to describe Kegel exercises is to clench the same muscles you clench when fighting the urge to urinate. That's why the exercise is also recommended to those who suffer from urinary incontinence.

Answer 10

so you know what the feeling is.... go pee, but while you are going, stop peeing... the muscle that u just used is the muscle that you need to flex while doing kegle excercises.

do them all the time, they say that u should do reps, but i just do them all the damn time!!

i know what u mean about the "tightness" feeling... you feel almost hollow? it will take time for everything to feel normal again...

do them kegels!! i swear it works!!!