I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and we have lived together for 2 years. We have seperate bedrooms. We have our own beds, closets, bedroom furniture, and personal possessions. This is something that works for us. We are people that like our space. We still sleep together - usually in my room. Only occasionally, like when one of us is sick, or if one of us has to get up super-early; do we sleep seperately.
The thing is, when our friends come over and notice this, we get a lot of judgement. People think we are completely weird, and don't get along or something, which is not at all true. We get along great, and we think it's because we give each other the space we desire. We don't constantly need to be with each other all the time. We think this is what makes our relationship great.
My question is: Do any of you have seperate bedrooms? If you don't, would you if you could? Or do you think our situation is bizarre the way our friends do?
2007-10-23 07:09:03 · 55 answers · asked by Maeve 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been with my husband for 11 years and wish we could have separate bedrooms...and no it's not because we don't get along, I adore the boy and love sleeping with him but at times you really do need your own space...I think it's a great idea... I think more marriages would last longer if we all did this...who cares what others think as long as it works for you.
2007-10-23 07:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily2414 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I share a bedroom and have been even when we lived together before marriage. If this is working for you and neither one of you see a problem in it, then I wouldn't worry about what others think. It is a good thing that you have your own space and others might think that you have too much space. I don't think your situation is bizarre because it sounds like there really isn't a problem about it between you two. I know that what works for one couple might not work for another.
2007-10-23 07:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say, to each their own. Separate bedrooms is usually construed as a lack of intimacy and inability to get along. But, the way you have described it, makes it sound like you don't like clutter and you like a bit of privacy. There is nothing wrong with that. My boyfriend and I share a room (and it is very small). Sometimes I wish I could put all his stuff in one room because it takes up so much space it is smothering. That will all be resolved when we buy a house next year.
2007-10-23 07:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have a guest bedroom that one of us occasionally will sleep in if one of us is sick, has to get up early or if he starts snoring so bad that I can't sleep.
We do have separate offices, but that's because we both work at home and we'd be driving each other crazy and not getting any work done if we shared an office. I don't think it's odd. Sleep is gold!!
2007-10-23 07:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know lots of couples with separate bed rooms. Most of them have them because of sleep/work schedules or snoring issues. You do what is best for your relationship and let your judgmental friends worry about their relationships.
My husband and I have discussed having separate beds. Not separate bedrooms. I'm an awful bed partner. I have RLS, and I get hot and cold throughout the night. I sleep like a baby...but he very often doesn't.
2007-10-23 07:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's different BUT I don't think it's bizzar, and your both comfortable with the ways things are and you are both givcing each other space, friends are friends BUT they say in life you can't count more than 5 true friend on one hand I myself have found that to be true SECONDLY it's you and your partner DO what works for u-two !cause at the end of the day when all is said and done it's just u- two and thats all that matters ( if it's not broke don't fix it i wouldn't change a thing )
2007-10-23 07:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by sharon a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it works for the two of you then I would not worry about it. I do not think it is a bad idea. It is hard to sleep with someone else. One is either snoring or the other stealing the covers. I for one am a snorer and so is my husband I also toss and turn and disrupt my husband sleep. I sleep on the couch most of the time. He doesn't like it that much but he has been mad at me for waking him up so much that I have a restless sleep worrying I am going to wake him up.
2007-10-23 07:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well My Husband works Nights and so I have the bed to my self 5 days a week and love it,we sleep together on weekends and that's just the way life works for us.We have been together 21 yrs,well 22 next month and married for almost 16 yrs.It is whatever works for you 2.No one needs to know your Bedroom Business.
2007-10-23 07:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I lived in a two-bedroom apartment, we slept in one bedroom and used the other as a combination study/guest room. So sorry, the presence of two bedrooms in the flat doesn't imply separate bedrooms.
2016-03-13 05:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Studies have shown that women sleep better without anyone else in the bed, where as men sleep just as well whether there is someone in bed with him or not.
Whatever works for you....I fear living with someone simply because I like my bed to myself. When my guy stays over, I'm up all night, then I'm worried that I'm keeping him up with my tossing and turning...who needs the stress.
2007-10-23 07:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋