Do you ever care for tomorrow or are you like me who careless?? I mean feel like tomorrow will be no different than today. Instead of believing or telling my self tomorrow is another day or another bright happy day, I feel like it’s just another depressing day. I hate being this way but when you have no excitement in your life, work being a struggle, having no friends or a true love in your life for the 25yrs you lived makes you to hate think nothing but the moment your in. Now I know many of you or all of you have absolutely a wonderful life that you could be mad at the day was short or can’t wait for another exciting day and bla bla bla but to me is like I don’t even want to see another tomorrow and that bother me a lot. What should I do to make this ugly life of mine more fun like other people I mean I work very hard, I have accomplish a lot in my life(educationally), own a house and drive a good car but none of those things brought any excitement in my life so what should I do??? I feel like I just live to work instead of work to live. Please help me in any way you can because I’m loose in it Thanks in advance.
Iza
2007-10-23 07:07:38 · 12 answers · asked by Lala 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
i love to draw, write, create, dance and share my ideas with other people. and i do not know what kind of job you have but if i worked somewhere that had nothing to do with what intressed me than i would most likely feel miserable too. i go to school and a hate each day unless i find something to look forward to. so i tried adding alot of classes to my schedual that interested me like art, drafting and stuff like that and now going to school isnt so bad. it could also be that you are doing the same thing everday so i would suggest doing something extremly diffrent each day. i like to draw but if i did it every single day it might drive me a little crazy so some times i like to just go outside and walk anywhere and just relax for the heck of making my day a little diffrent from the rest.
2007-10-23 08:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Iza. You know that your car, horse, education, work, etc.
have nothing to do with happiness or joy. Fun and love and
sex and dancing, etc. are all outside activities on the other
side of the teeter totter from the soul. Somewhere inside
you must find a completely quiet, blissful spot that has
nothing to do with religion, a place of light where you can
retreat and find peace. Think of it as your travelling home..
where you don't need four walls or a social structure to
nurture yourself. Sometimes it takes going on a retreat
or spending a month or so in the mountains or by the
sea...completely alone or with a pet. The less distractions
and outside influences the better. Wait....it will come to
you. It's just a feeling of confidence and happiness. It's
a calm, knowing place inside from where you will be
able to handle anything that comes your way. When you
become open like this, it won't take very much for you to
feel really excited with life and all it has to offer....just the
littlest thing like watching a hummingbird feed from a
flower will do it for you. Think about it. The answers
are all out there in nature.
2007-10-23 16:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to find a part time job that pays well (it should also be something that you would like to do) and then you should really spend some quality time with yourself looking in the mirror and listening to your thoughts. Ask your self why are you so unhappy. Ask yourself what is it that you think will make you happy...besides another person. What activities do you enjoy, what makes you feel like a silly happy toddler when you do it. If you don't know then maybe you should try to get out more and try new and different things.
Learn how to love yourself no matter what. 24-7. Be your own best friend. Spoil your self. Treat yourself how you would want a lover to treat you...and most importantly think positively...good thoughts, good thoughts.
You are what you eat so you may need to change your diet a little bit too. Eating the flesh of slaughtered dead animals carries a negative vibration that you end up digesting. Sometimes stress and depression are due to vitamin deficiencies. Incorporate lots of spinach, oranges, Vitamin B-complex (for stress) and Vitamin C into your diet. A multivitamin would be great. Drink plenty of spring water and natural juices, leave out the soda. Get alot of sleep, watch a comedy or cartoon every now and then and TRUST me, you'll notice the difference.
Know that you where created for a divine purpose. Help others and you'll find yourself getting what you need more often then not. Most importantly...love you!!!
...PS Get the DVD "The Secret"...watch it, study it, do it.
2007-10-23 15:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by susieozbornehiphop 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes I feel the same way and that I am a lost soul. Sounds like you need to do some soul searching to find some kind of inner peace. What I have done and what you might want to try is connecting more with the miracle of life and nature. Have you ever just looked at a tree? Or the ocean? Just smelled the fresh air? Take a step back from your everyday hum-drum life and do something different. Then appreciate the miracle of all that is around you. Remember, not everything in life has to be exciting!
2007-10-23 14:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by beast 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are lots of ways to help with that here are some
-Be an active member of a church
-Be a good friend to get good friends. i completely agree with the statement "more people means more fun" in most cases. and you might even find someone you like.
-Be physically active... dance, lift weights, go running, swimming, take some lessons in free running or parkour (im convinced that the more physically active someone is they are generally happier, in fact some of the happiest people i know are very physically active and the most depressed people i know dont do much at all)
-Find some kind of hobbie that you like to do. drawing, painting, writing... you said you have accomplished alot aducationally who knows you might enjoy tinkering with small devices or building little gadgets or making air cannons.
2007-10-23 15:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by ldsironman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up hope for happiness. Take a vacation to a different country of your choice . Holidays from work are meant to cheer you up. Join your local country club. I don't live a exiting life every day but I keep myself busy doing things that make me happy. So my dear read all the answers & make a summary of all good advises to suit your lifestyle
2007-10-23 16:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by LOVE U 2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I feel like this. I find that getting totally out of my element helps so much. I travel as much as I can, to foreign countries. I like Europe, Spain, and the one thing that stands out to me when I am there is exactly what you mention at the end: they work to live instead of live to work.
You have worked hard, reward yourself. Put yourself in a situation that you have never been in. It can be so much fun and so exciting.
2007-10-23 14:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to start doing things that you are passionate about..and if you dont know what those things are you need to find out..things outside of work and home..take a art class, go out to meet people, go to sporting events...most people who i have met in life that had NO friends..usually werent a very good one themselves..you have to try to be more optimistic and people will then be drawn to you..noone wants to hang out with someone who is down all the time...start planning something for yourself each that you can look forward to for tomorrow...like renting a good movie, or doing something nice for yourself at the end of the day like a hot bubble bath with a glass of wine...once you are happier then tomorrow will start to look alot brighter
2007-10-23 14:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by becca9892003 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
x_louder: you're answer sucks!
Steps to getting happy again that worked for me when I was quite as grey and hopeless as you are(maybe "were") when you asked this question:
watch: "how to cope with depression" on youtube(really do this!!http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=how%20to%20cope%20with%20depression&search=Search
It's just to cheer you up a bit.
I don't know how I got over my depression. I just got better. I hope you'll gt over it as well as soon as posible!
2007-10-23 14:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by saskia r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
often happiness lies in the smallest of things..mayb ud be happy having fun with baby cousins or old friends, or parents...it s like the movie amelie....she used to get pleasure in helping others realise their happiness......
but life nd and every moment of it is precious so treasure em.
2007-10-23 14:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by samyshine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋