20 / Female -- Parents seem completely uninterested in our lives.?

Question

Has anyone else experienced this?
Most parents I come across show an immense interest in the lives of their kids, from what they're studying in school, to where they're working, who they're dating, etc.
My parents seem to show absolutely no interest in our lives. It was as though they were completely oblivious to the fact that, surprise surprise, kids grow up, and we won't always just want to play catch in the backyard.
It goes further than that though. They're downright dead-weights. My brother is marrying into an Italian family next year, and the first thing out of my mother's mouth was a complaint about the location -- barely any congratulations!
Anyone else struggle with parents who seem inconvenienced to have children? Both of them make great money. Additionally, they haven't put any money aside for our weddings, educations, etc.
I'm independent and can manage on my own two feet, but it's simply about the fact that they don't seem to really care. It's a HASSLE for them.

Answer 1

I am sorry that you feel like they don' t have any interest in your life.

I think I may have the answer for you

I believe that your parents are like a lot of people I know. They only know work and making the all mighty buck. they tend to forget the feeling of the people they love. they are so dedicated to everything being one way their way. so when the wedding cam up they had to say something about it because it was not the way they thought.

All that a side I think you should blow their minds Remember children only do what MOM and DAD say. So give it to them give so much they won't know what hit them. yes MOM thank you, you know you have the best ideas I am not totally sure of the words but I hope you get the idea.

Then bring it home set them down and lay it on them tell them what you think and don't be afraid tell them you want to put a face on the family and that you want it to be something good for all of you and have everyone there. Open the future to the love you all have in you. they can't turn down someone that says I LOVE YOU Also forgive them they were just trying to do good for you they just did not know how to go about it

Answer 2

You don't say how many children they have other than you and your brother or how old your parents are. Even those of us that had children very young, get tired of dealing with the teenage drama (not to mention the sports and clubs and other activities) and when our kids are finally grown and able to take care of themselves we just kinda breath a sigh of relief and get a little selfish about our own space and time. It's not that we don't love our kids, but parenting is a seemingly never ending job, and when it appears that we're finally going to get a break, along comes a wedding or something else to deal with. Parents just get a little cranky. Give them some time and maybe when they have grandchildren they'll pay a little more attention. If not, then make your own life and don't worry about what they do or don't do. Just be happy and hope you don't turn into them someday.

Answer 3

That sucks. I don't want to say anything bad about your parents, so just do what makes you happy and let them wander in their own dry world. You seem to have a great life, don't let them bring you down.

Answer 4

Have a family meeting and tell them how hurtful they are. They are probably so busy making money, they don't even realize what they are doing. Good luck!

Answer 5

And then there are the kids who ask for advice and then say that the parents are interfering so when the parent shuts up they are accused of "not caring".