For example: If i'm with my friends who i love and adore, and a new person comes into the group, whether this person is just stopping by or mingling with us for an extended amount of time, i tend to shy away from that person. However, i also feel slight jealousy to be honest, i hate that feeling, but it's hard to shake it off. I don't speak my mind out or make it obvious that i'm jealous though, for example i won't go and make the new person's life a living hell or annoy that person because i'm jealous, i'll carry on as normal, but inside, i feel slightly jealous.
2007-10-23 06:35:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's normal. Don't worry.
Try to see the good qualities in that other person, and how you would be able to be friends with them.
2007-10-23 06:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe to me does not make you necessarily an attention seeker. It does indicate that you like to be the centre of attention. These are two completely different things.
An attention seeker would do the exact opposite of what you describe and make the new persons life unbearable. They would try and belittle the newcomer to detract from their novelty value within the group and they would become increasingly outrageous in order to detract attention away from the new person.
It is totally normal when someone new enters your group of friends to feel put out if for example they are getting more attention than you, Especially if in normal circumstances you would be up there with the best getting loads of attention.
At the same time it is perfectly normal that someone new into the fold will get all the attention especially if they are only going to be there for a short time.
Humans are just like animals and there is a pecking order in every society. If the new person quickly moves on things will quickly resume to normal. If they stick around they will find their own natural position in your group.
You have to control your feelings of jealousy and just be pleasant to the person for as long as they are there, because jealousy is the most destructive emotion there is.
Good Luck
2007-10-23 14:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by steve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is pervasive, meaning it constantly happens during similar situations, you might have histrionic personality disorder. If its not a bother to your personal life and how you function then its perfectly normal. We all become anxious when we encounter new people or people who overshadow us.
However, if it gets in the way of your life you might want to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist.
2007-10-23 14:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Casey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious confidence issue. Maybe you need to work on liking yourself more rather than waiting for everyone else's attention to validate you.
2007-10-23 13:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by michims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you seek attention. it sounds like you just dont feel comfterble with change. and many other people are like that.
2007-10-23 13:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋