Ok so my bf stopped having sex with me when i was 3 months pregnant and we talked about it and he said it just made him uncomfortable because he felt he was hurting the baby and he new certain positions were just a no so he just tried to not think about sex, it was weird it bothered me and kind of annoyed me but what ever i just let time go by. then finally last night we had sex but it was weird. it actually hurt and i didnt enjoy it at all. i have my docs appt tomorrow and i will ask her why it hurt. i wonder if it was because i went 4 months without doing anything or if something else is wrong. has anyone else had this happen?
2007-10-23 06:21:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i am 7 months now
2007-10-23 06:29:39 · update #1
I have to say if your partner thinks that he could harm the baby from sex must think he is rather rather large lol,
Whilst prgnant you are perfectly safe to have sex and there isnt any harm to your baby.
I would say there are possibly a few reasons for uncomfortable sex-
1- You havent had sex in four months and the therefore you are a little tighter than if you had been practising regularsex
2- You may have been (sub-consicoiusly) worried about harming the baby, and when you are worried/ tense this can cause you to one tighten and two not become *w*e*t.
3- If you had not warmed up properly (i.e foreplay) prior to engaging in sex (likely because of the above no 2 reason) you may not of been fully ready (if you get me).
Personally I do not think you have any concerms and that you and your partner should go tomorrow to gather some information about this subject, just to reassure him, that all is well and that sex whilst pregnant is fine.
P.s you should make the most of it now, because you wont get any sex in a few months, you'll be too tired lol.
Good luck and hope all is fine with the birth etc xxx
2007-10-23 06:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really bothered me too... I was in a similar situation... The baby making was nooooo problem... But now that I'm pregnant We'll have it like once a week or so... and to me that's a long time! lol... I couldn't imagine 4 months... I used to cry because it made me feel un-wanted... unattractive to him... It really hurt... I've had conversation after conversation with him about it and he's come around to it... Most men feel weird about doing it while his partner is pregnant... They feel they hurt the baby... You should have read him a part of a book or asked your doctor to explain to him that's it's completely normal... Now the reason why it hurt this last time is probably and most likely because it had been a while... Next time try taking it slowly and try other positions that are not painful... and if you can't do the deed... foreplay is an option... I think it's important to keep the "sexual" part of your relationship alive... Better luck next time... and asking your doc is the most important thing... Good luck...
2007-10-23 06:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by *~*MOMMY TO A.J*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant with my 2nd. Both times I was pregnant, our amount of sex decreased a lot but never stopped. I have heard there is no reason to not have sex and most positions are fine. Also, women should have an increased chance of having an orgasm. My husband and I are trying to get back into the swing of things and I'm hoping for positive experiences throughout this pregnancy. I'm just so tired all the time that it isn't helping.
2007-10-23 06:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many physical and emotional changes during pregnancy. While some sexual relationships may improve during pregnancy, others may stagnate or suffer - understandably so. The best approach is to be open with one-another about your feelings, needs and expectations.
This may be an ideal opportunity to build on your sexual relationship, explore each other and find new ways of giving each other pleasure. On the other hand, you may look at exploring your emotional relationship instead. The best way to overcome any difficulties is to spend time talking. Try to build security and a feeling of closeness by focusing on your love for each other rather than just your sex life (or lack of it!). Chances are if you feel intimate and close, more intimate and satisfying lovemaking will follow.
It might be a good time to indulge in a loving, sensual and erotic massage to set the mood!
2007-10-23 06:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by QT-pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was able to have sex up until I was 3 months pregnant and after that I had to stop. I tried a couple times, but it hurt so bad. The fact I carry my children low didnt help either, even while trying other positions. However, there are always other things you and him can do for enjoyment. Good luck!
2007-10-23 06:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by xoangeleyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it was cause you guys waited so long, it's fine to have sex the baby doesn't feel anything and it can even help you dilate faster. it might have been the position, try sideways, or on top but make sure he is sitting all the way up and kinda holding your legs, from behind is OK. just not too rough, that cant get ...intense. I've heard they enjoy it more when your prego , so happy humping!
2007-10-23 06:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by P.Y.T. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months without sex is a super long time to go. I have never been pregnant, but if I go a week without sex, it won't be that comfortable the first time. I'm guessing that is the problem, but I would still ask your doctor.
2007-10-23 06:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Blonde&Intelligent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont do it for awhile it will hurt. Your very tight b/c of the baby. Try having sex more, YOU WILL NOT hurt the baby in anyway. They said you can have sex all the way till your water breaks. Try riding him backwards.. I did it and it was amazing..lol Also spooning and doggy style is good. Having him on top isnt the best b/c of the belly is in the way.
Good luck!
2007-10-23 06:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be paranoid by being prego if you made the mistake of having sex with someone you didn't know? Just face it, you made the mistake deal with the concecuences. If you are pregnant tell your parents the truth. Make sure next time you know the person and that you are going to be safe. Good luck!
2016-05-25 03:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I AM 7 MONTHS AND SEX DOESN'T HURT. IF IT HURTS ITS NOT A GOOD THING AND YOU SHOULD ASK YOUR DOCTOR BEFORE HAVING SEX TO SEE IF ITS OK BECAUSE FOR SOME WOMEN ITS NOT OK.. AND ABOUT YOUR BF DONT FEEL SO BAD THAT HAPPENS WITH MEN EITHER THEY THINK YOU LOOK SEXIER AND WANT TO HAVE SEX EVEN MORE OFTEN WHICH IS WHAT HAPPENED WITH MINE OR THEY FEEL LIKE THEY MIGHT HURT THE BABY AND ACT LIKE YOURS BUTS NORMAL DONT THINK THAT HIS FEELINGS HAVE CHANGED HE IS JUST CONCERNED
2007-10-23 06:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋