2007-10-23 04:53:54 · 12 answers · asked by neuroticgirl9 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some of the best techniques that I have learned is to always make eye contact with the person and speak to them in a soft, calm voice. Do not raise your voice to their level - keep your calm. Always present your case with facts - not half truths or fabrications.
2007-10-23 05:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by siamsa_siamsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have the same knowledge as they do plus more. It sounds cliche but it is so true. Knowledge is power, and the more you know, and more importantly the more confident you are about what you know, and where you stand amongst other proffessionals, then you will be able to argue effectively. Not so different than the statement: Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer. And look for a weakness in them as this can be, once identified, effectively anticipated and exploited to use against them. Most people are week minded idiots who have nothing else on their minds other than Ipods, Iphones, video games, celebrities, or how drunk they got on Saturday night. These people are so easily controlled and manipulated, like taking candy from a baby!!! Good luck.
2007-10-23 05:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by mike9626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great question. I have dealt with a few of these. I call them bullies and or sniping type personalities. The best thing to do is to talk to your direct supervisor if possible. The other thing I would suggest is pull the bully aside and explain that you don't know why they are aggressive in the way they speak to you but to just stop it. Try not to engage in a verbal stoush. You will only give them the satisfaction of them bullying you. If you feel you are getting worked up and your heart is pounding etc...walk away, come back, acknowledge what they have made you feel and be upfront with what they have said to you and how it made you feel. I.e. The way you spoke to me before came across as aggressive and I felt like you were attacking me. Is there something going on for you? That could work depending on how long this has gone on for. Document and date all the unpleasant exchanges. Man I feel for you its a total drag.
If all else fails pull them aside, tell them to stop, and punch them in the guts. If that is not extreme enough for you, pull them aside, tell them to stop, 'cause if they don't you'll slit their throat like a furkin' pig...maybe not but then again, you need a perverse sense of humour about it sometimes.
2007-10-23 05:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends. I work with physicians who are very domineering and like to throw their weight around. Some of them are just over stressed and over worked and tired.
One particular doctor makes all the nurses cringe when he walks in. He can be so wrong and still not get it. I caught him making a huge mistake, so rather than wimp out and let him run over me, I smiled big and pretended like he was my best friend. I spoke gently and greeted him kindly and thanked him for his understanding of the situation and we work very well together. I cannot stand him, but a smile and kindness get you a long way.
2007-10-23 05:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "Success with the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" by Suzette Elgin. I have read this book and it was amazingly informative, especially about communication in the corporate world. Elgin is not a psychologist, but a linguist. So her perspective is unique. Enjoy!
2007-10-23 05:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Idle Chitchat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always remain calm - never let them get you worked up. If you get loud, get out of control, or use bad language, they will feel justified in being aggressive towards you in order to suppress your "bad" behavior. As long as you are calm, steady, and in control of yourself, they will have to see your point (even if they pretend not to). Also, as Siamsa (above answer) says, use facts. Your emotions are probably not an effective argument.
2007-10-23 05:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to calm down and talk like people.
Once I quoted the bible "The love of money is the root of all evil".
Want to talk about silencing a room.
2007-10-23 04:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your calm, look them in the eye, and present your case. Also, learn about the different dynamic devices used in conversation, so you can quickly analyze your opponents strategy, and then you can pick his argument apart easily.
2007-10-23 05:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mimic their body language and their voice tones and use them to mask how you actually feel like behaving.
Fake it until you make it!
2007-10-23 05:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
always keep eye contact. before u say anything unprofessional but not nasty always say "with all do respect" & never back down from making ur point
2007-10-23 04:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Solicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋