ok.. this guy i like has a girl friend ..and i really like him ok i dont wanna go out withim or anything i cant tell him how i feel becuase he has a gf im so pissed hes ignoring me for some reason ever since i rejected his friend he asked me on a date anyways. why is he ignoring me i dont get it ? why!
i swr i went to my bfs party and alot of ppl were there he didnt even say hi to me like we passed by each other a million times! i swrr.. finally when we were sitting i was like whats with u we used to be so close .. he stared and looked away! i got so sad ok and my friend wanted to take a pic of me and him alone i dunno why she did tht anyways like he was soo far away from me also we were like on the dance floor we always like look at each other and stuff and i felt as if .. whever we'd dance a little close he'd just back away i swr.. i cnt tell him how i feel becuz since we are so close he porbably knows how i feel by now he probably knows i like him .. no doubt hes just toturing me !!
2007-10-23 04:43:28 · 7 answers · asked by MONKEY.CHIMP.SAME THING 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok, it sounds like he is mad because you dumped his friend or maybe he likes you. and he is mad because his friend asked you out. just give him some time to chill out he will come around. and i don't think he is torturing you i think he thinks you are stalking him just make sure you give him his space.
2007-10-23 04:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by morgan p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either:
1)he wants nothing to do with you
2)he likes you a lot and doesn't want to be "friends" but something closer.
A lot of girls never date guys that they label as "friends," when a lot of these guys who are so-called friends, do have a lot of feelings for these girls.
Either he realizes that you would never date him because you consider him a "friend," or he plainly outright doesn't like you anymore (because you dumped his best friend), or maybe a combination of both.
Is he tired of being "friends?" If he likes you a lot, YES!
I have had the privilege of experiencing many such occurrences where I liked the girl very much but she only liked me as a "friend." So, many times, I got angry at them and stopped speaking to them because it hurt me so much to see the girls go for the guys that they told me that they would "never go for."
Also, there is an "attraction" technique which is quite popular with guys (most use it unknowingly, but some use it knowingly), which is basically to ignore the girl, or show her that she means nothing to you and you don't even need her in the first place, and the girl actually gets attracted to you more (it is a psychological mechanism responsible for that.)
Whatever the reason for his actions: anger or creative manipulation, doesn't matter at this point. What does matter is how you feel and what you choose to do about it.
Do you want to be "friends" with him or something more? Do you like him, attracted to him, or not? And finally, once you know exactly what you want, then you can proceed from there.
I feel you are confused, in terms of the signs that he is throwing you. You seem quite upset, so he must mean something to you. (A lot of inexperienced girls run away from relationship with guys that mean something to them and go for guys that have less connection on a personal level. It feels safe to do so, because with your friends, all of your "protective personal barriers" are down.)
I suspect you want something more than a friendship and are afraid to go for it, and hence being confused and not knowing what to do. There is a lot of fear around it. You don't want to admit that you really like him, so you say things like, "Oh, I just like him as a friend," which gives you the excuse for ignoring your real feelings for him, and pretending that it's somehow his fault that all of this is happening to you.
Remember, you are the one who is confused, not him. You must decide if
1) you're willing to put aside your fears and go for what you really want. Or,
2) you continue to be miserable as you are, and continue to blame him or yourself, and in the end you will have enough of the pain inside, scar yourself for life, move on while keeping all the pain inside, and maybe after 20 years or so, realize the mistakes you have made as a result of that one decision to hold on to your fear and blame him and yourself.
Remember, being true to yourself is the most important gift you can give yourself in this life. (What's the point of life, if you keep lying to yourself and then denying the fact that you're lying to yourself, and then you can't even be true to yourself, and as a result, can't even be true to others.
It's your choice, either way.
2007-10-23 05:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by ResearchAdvisor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell u what, your story was too much babbling. I couldn't even finish reading it. But here's the deal, just sit back and analyze everyone's behavior and make a decision with your heart not your mind. use your gut instincts it won't steer you wrong. watch for signs and symbols. you will be okay. ;)
2007-10-23 04:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, move on, there is soooooooo many people out there... if you keep bugging him with the "whats wrong?" question, he's going to think you are crazy... You, back away, and find new friends...
2007-10-23 04:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just doing it because he know he can tourture you.
I know from experience leave him alone and move on.
I'm starting to grow a serious distaste for men.
2007-10-23 04:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're asking the wrong people. We can't read his mind. YOU need to talk to HIM about this. Good luck!
2007-10-23 04:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen girl...ths guy is completely ignorin u.....n i dont think u should even give damn to a guy like him.....if he doesnt want u around....to hell with him....jst enjoy ur life n let him live his...m sure u'll gt better guys...who actually understand u n know ur worth.....
2007-10-23 04:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by black_cat030891 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋