I speak to a very good friend online everyday. He always likes talking to me and leaves me offline messages if Im not around.
Recently - i find he is growing closer to me. Trusting me with his deeper issues and thoughts. He says im loyal.
I feel I have to tread carefully now because I dont want to hurt him in any way because he is revealing his vulnerable side.
Is this what men REALLY want? A woman they can trust and share their innermost feelings with?
Answers from Adults only please.
2007-10-23 04:38:18 · 28 answers · asked by Autumn 2012 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
A lover, a partner, a confidant, a playmate, someone to tell their trouble to, someone to trust them with their problems, someone to support them in their dreams and someone to fill in the gaps of what they are.
2007-10-23 04:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Songbyrd JPA ✡ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men want different things at different stages in life. When people say that all men want is sex, they are wrong, but not very wrong. Sex is a big deal to men because it satisfies a wide variety of needs. It make us feel good, it makes us feel valuable, and it satisfies that urge to conquer. But it isn't all we want. Everone, man or woman, needs someone they can trust. Sometimes we just need to vent. If this is an online acquaintence, then he may feel that he can open up because you aren't anywhere nearby to tell his secrets to his friends and family, or he may feel that he can tell you his secrets because if you start judging him you are a lot easier to cut off than someone he has to see every day.
I would just caution you to be careful not only of his feelings, but of your own. When you can't see or hear someone when they tell you things, it can be hard to tell if they are trying to play pathetic to manipulate you. Make sure that someone else knows about this guy, even if you keep his secrets. Be careful about how much indentifying information you give out. People have been known to track down someone they met online with no more information than a hobby and little information about the town they live in.
2007-10-23 05:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a man really wants is the hands of a woman on his body.
A brush on the arm, a squeeze on the shoulder, a pat on the back.
Little, slight touches that immediately sends a flood of electricity thru our bodies. We feel instantly, and amazingly, relaxed and happy.
We do NOT want to tell ANYONE what we feel inside. Men like to keep their emotions secret. I am guessing it comes from our ancestors; went out into the world to find food. Lots of things to hurt us. So we keep the pain inside so we can keep moving forward to find food, and bring it home.
When a man tells you his deep issues and deep thoughts, he is telling you stories for the purpose of getting you to lower your guard!
Definitely, tread VERY carefully. Keep the internet relationship going, but forget meeting him. IF he suddenly has nothing more to say on the internet, then say goodby.
Not only was this a good question, it shows me that you are a very smart person with a LOT of common sense!
2007-10-23 04:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Works for me. That's what I've found.
Tread carefully, as you've said. It's possible he wants more out of this than you do.
Hey, Markymark? Being an adult physically doesn't automatically mean you're an adult mentally.
I think there's a fourteen year old in your head and he speaks on your behalf.
2007-10-23 04:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Beastie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me, I want a lady that I can trust and share my life with.
Someone who will give me the opportunity to share my thoughts, and then the willingness and openness to share hers.
I want a companion to share the good times with, and to help me get through the bad times. Someone that I can share my life and life experiences with.
My good fortune is that I have found that lady. My wife and I are married forty years next May. She is the rock of my life and the person that knows and understands me the best.
She is my life partner. And that's all I really wanted.
Cheers,
2007-10-23 04:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Perplexed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just want to be left alone most of the time and not be continuously nagged. I talk about all sorts of personal issues with my mates so it makes little difference having a woman to talk to.
Aged 33 (nearly 34)
2007-10-23 04:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by brummie73s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a man specific issue, not yet anyway. Most people want someone they can talk to about sensitive issues and trust. Things get complicated if he starts having feeling for as more than a friend.
2007-10-23 04:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by suspendedagain300 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are not good at platonic relationships, as a general rule. The sex thing usually creeps into most relationships that are not between relatives. If he is prepared to talk to you, get close to you and not regard you as a sexualised person, he is being VERY open.
Men can be extremely vulnerable as they are not good at disclosing their innermost feelings, even to close partners.
If you are prepared to listen and not judge I am sure he will apprciate that
2007-10-23 04:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Truly all men are different. This guy could be someone that has some deep issues that he just HAS to share and is looking for someone to just funnel those issues to. Like he should be doing with a shrink.
Some guys just want sex. Some guys just want a loyal woman that they truly love and don't have to worry about them sleeping around.
Some guys want adventurous girls.
Heck, some guys want other guys. XD
2007-10-23 04:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by Dark L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I find that most men who are serious about a relationship really do want to have someone to share their hopes and fears with. I feel most people, be they male or female, really just want someone they can trust as they journey through the complexities of their souls and through life in general....and porn, lots and lots of porn.
2007-10-23 04:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men do like these things about friends, which is what the two of you sound like. Beyond that I think everyman likes a woman he can be romantic with. The one major thing I can think of that we absolutely do not want, is to be emasculated.
2007-10-23 12:43:23 · answer #11 · answered by Ed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋