can't make female friends...?

Question

hi..i am a 27 year old stay at home mom with three kids ages 3, 2, and 1. i cannot find a way to make any friends! i have always had problems making friends with girls, and i am not sure why....maybe because i am not good at small talk, and i am not into gossip. even when i feel like i am starting to make a friend....they only want my friendship when i am helping them out with something...then they just stop talking to me.....i am really feeling lonely and want to make some good friends.....any advice would be lovely! thanks!

btw...i have joined a yoga class to try and meet people...but none of the women in it are my age...they all are much older than me

it is hard for me to join clubs like "my gym" because i have 3 babies.....it is too difficult to take all three at once

lol, i am not hard to get along with...people always tell me i am too nice...also...my husband takes the car to work so i can't go to groups or anything like that....even when i do go, most of the moms are older than me, so even think i am the children's babysitter and don't come and chat with me(i look very young for my age, most people think i am 19 or 20)

Answer 1

I'm the same way, i'm 31 with one child. I haven't had a female friend since high school. Same reasons as you. I hate small talk, hate to gossip, don't like to shop or bicker. I've always gotten along better with men and have many male friends, but I miss having a female friend sometimes just to bounce things off of. Plus, it seems like some people are real suspicious of a girl with all male friends- I know my family is.
Anyways, I tried making friends with a few girls at work, that didn't work out. Sometimes if you're just not a girly girly type, you gotta stick with the guys. Or find another "man's woman" like me!

Answer 2

Try joining kid friendly groups with other moms & see how it goes look in your area i'm sure you can find groups like that . Let me ask you are you like kinda of hard to get along with . Do you say things with out thinking? I'm just trying to find out why you are having such a hard time making friends. Everyone has at least one friend. But join the YMCA they let you take the kids and they are not that expensive for a family. Join a play date group with the other moms start your own playdates in your area see what happens sometimes you have to put yourself out there . that's how it's gonna work

Answer 3

I know how you feel. The people I used to hang around either have no kids or they do and all they want to do is hang out in the bars. It's really hard. I'm like that right now to and I've tried to get things going with women I work with and it never pans out and I hate to feel like I am desperate but I kinda am. I need adult interaction. I don't know either like you said I've tried joing the gym and other activities and no one really acts personable, and I don't want to talk to them and make them think I'm a freak.

Answer 4

Try joining clubs, like a bowling league or a book club, that's how to make and meet new friends.

Answer 5

Start visiting churches..

Lots of friendly people

get in a sunday school department or bible study group

Always lots of young mothers with small children

I would recommend Southern Baptist or Assembly of God....

Answer 6

Hey when does friendship sees age?Yoga classes are good you can ask for any advice and in return give the advice also.you are sure going to make a lot of friends.All the best

Answer 7

I think you should take your kids to a play center somewhere. While watching your kids you could try to start up a conversation with other moms.

Answer 8

have you ever heard of a "my gym" or "jymboree?" its for children but you go along to the classes also, you will get to make friends and also your kids will too. i worked at my gym before and a lot of times they dont necessarily do it for the kids they do it to make friends (especially with the real little ones)

Answer 9

I will give you a Christian answer since that is what I am, and who I am. If you are a Christian-hater, then consider respectfully yourself warned. No one is forcing you to read my answer:

To make friends you must be a friendly person. You don't need to be a Christian to be friendly. A friendly person does the following:

They don't lie.

They don't steal.

They don't murder.

They don't covet.

They are careful to listen to what you are saying.

They are careful when they judge, making sure that they are not judging in hypocrisy.

They are careful with what they say, making sure not to insult you (not offend, but not insult). To insult someone is to say something to them to make them feel pain for your mere pleasure and in defiance of God.

They are patient and don't try and get rid of you or rush you out of their laziness or thinking they are too upper class to be around you.

They are careful about what they get angry about and try not to show their annoyance when you annoy them. For example, they make sure not to say something that might embarrass you in front of others like, "Your hair looks stupid."

They offer you help if they can give it and especially if it is not that inconvenient. For example if a stranger comes to your door, obviously thirsty, and he asks for some water, you go and get some cup you don't use (in case the person has T.B.) and fill it with some cool or warm water for them to drink, as opposed to saying, "You can drink from my hose" and then shutting the door on them. It would be especially unfriendly if you knew the water from your hose tasted bad.

If you want to make good friends, then you should make sure that you are a Christian (which you can find out how to do via the link in my profile hopefully). As a Christian with eternal life you should go to a church that teaches the correct way to get eternal life and which has people that are doing a good job serving God, as opposed to being a disorganized and bumbling people, and though may be growing in size, are doing more harm then good by what they are doing.

Find a church to go to where the people are friendly of course, and plenty of people for you to get to know and help. Also make sure you like the music, because it's very important that you can worship God without being depressed. If you can't find a church with music you like, see if any of the best ones are willing to play music you like or just avoid the music part of the services.

You can also make friends by helping the poor and needy, like the homeless or orphans. Don't do it for man's praise but do it for God.

If you are good at certain subjects such as math or science, you can post newspaper ads or fliers in schools offering your help for a low price or for free for people who need help with those subjects.

Other things to make sure about is that you are dressed in such a way that won't embarrass anyone hanging around you. Make sure your style of dress isn't wild, flamboyant, outdated, too plain, or sloppy. Also make sure your breath does not smell bad, and drink plenty of water or chew gum that uses sugar or xylitol and not the artificial sweeteners which can harm you. Make sure your shoes aren't smelly too.

You can also draw like-minded people to you by wearing clothes that make a statement, literally. For example, "You can get eternal life now, ask me how" or "Jesus rules" and wear a cross. Someone may bless you for your boldness and then ask them if they are a Christian, when they became one if they are, and what church they attend. Hopefully you can get to know them later.

You may not ever make any close friends here on Earth before you die, but if you have eternal life, you will have a never ending supply of close friends one day. Just be patient.

Answer 10

it is better to pick the friends from net,,,,,,,,,