Professional well earning women, how does your career affect your romantic options. Do you feel that due to?

Question

the fact that you make your own money, your choices have widened, because you are free to pick from men who make 10k - Infinitum/y or do you feel that your choices have narrowed down to the men who are more successfull or at least as successfull as you ? Plz ingore the mens preferences for now, ie dont factor in men who dont want a less/more successfull woman, talk only about your own preferences.

Eithier nurses make lots more there than here or cops make far less.

Answer 1

The only career a woman should have outside the house is a nurse or a secretary. Part-time is best. Or maybe an Internet business run from HOME.

Answer 2

During my pregnancy, I knew I was going back to work after 12 weeks. I didn't go to college to get my degree and work so hard to become a SAHM. I was managing a branch within the HR industry and was well compensated. However, after spending only 2 weeks with my new daughter, I knew there was no way I could ever leave her. And now, I'm a SAHM!!!! :-) It was a difficult decision saying good-bye to a career that I loved and being in the adult world but everytime I look at my daughter (now 3.5 months), I know it is worth it! I couldn't imagine spending my days any other way now! So while some may say my career has suffered, I feel my life is now complete and fulfilling and it's the best decision we made!

Answer 3

I hate it. It has narrowed down to nearly no choices. I am 21 and making around 50k as a drafter (there's a high demand so our salary is inflated). Finding a man who is in my field and my age or close to it is nearly impossible. I want someone in my field just so I can relate to him better. I tried dating a parking lot sweeper but it was a pain in the butt. He would go on and on about how stressed out he was from driving in a circle. When I started to mention being stressed over getting numbers wrong and possibly killing someone (it goes through many peoples eyes before it can become dangerous) he would change the subject because he didn't get it. Have dated men ten years older than me. They seem to be more into the "look, I am dating a young women" instead of something serious. I freaking give up.

Sorry about the rant, hope that helps
Beth

Answer 4

Interesting question, BTW. I am a woman you are describing here. However, in my life I have been a struggling financially student, young and barely making ends meet professional and now am a successful business owner and a scientist. One thing that never changed during all this time was my outlook on life and people: I do not waste my time on silly company ( although, it has absolutely nothing to do with the size of their bank account. ) I simply prefer quality over quantity. That is why I have been happily married for over 17 years now.

Answer 5

You knew the answer to this before you posted the question....of course women making more are looking for men at the high end of the earning spectrum. They did not educate themselves and climb the corporate ladder in order for them to support a man.

So go ahead and call this hypocritical....that women expect to be with a man who earns more, but men are supposed to love a woman for who she is...not how much she earns.

The truth is, Cass, that more and more men are looking at women's financial status and earning potential when they are considering relationships. And good for them. They should have been doing this long ago! I don't believe that a man should be a woman's banker, or that she can be irresponsible with her own money all her life and then marry someone who will set her up financially for the rest of her life.

Answer 6

Well I'm currently a broke college student, but I've already found that man I'm going to marry. Part of the reason he is attracted to me is because I have some pretty hefty career goals. I am intelligent and I am in school trying to make it happen. Now I am not going to be making 6 figures a year, but I will be making more than your average American when I get my job, and we're both incredibly excited about it.

As for if I weren't with him, I've found the type of men I am attracted to aren't big fans of gender roles. They want their woman to be just as well-earning and successful as they are. It's kind of funny. I can usually tell by the body type, bone structure, as well as fashion sense and hairstyle of a man if he is going to be somewhat compatible with me regarding views of gender roles.

Answer 7

to help answer from a mans point of view, my wife is a nurse practitioner she does really good for her self, and I'm a police officer do the math, she make close to four time the money that I make. It was hard for at first because i was use to make the money before i became a police officer, ( I was a contractor). She never has said my money her money which helps a lot form my point of view, and I never did either. so to answer your ? my wife did not pick someone that make a great pay check, but someone who can relate to her everyday and love her.

Answer 8

Statistics on fertility indicate that the more education and the better job a woman has, the higher the likelihood of her being childless.

If she is unmarried that likelihood doubles, to the point where unmarried female executives are around 90% childless by the age of 45.

Answer 9

I am 10 years old than my boyfriend, and I am college-educated He is not. I make about twice what he does. He loves it. Younger men today are not as threatened by a wife/girlfriend who makes more than they do, as they are more likely to have been raised by professional mothers, and they don't find it odd.

Professional women...go for them young! They're attractive, they don't have spare tires, they are great in bed, they're more likely to do housework and childcare duties, and they're not threatened by you. It's great!

Answer 10

I know some women who are professionals in romance.