Being back only reinforced my reasons for leaving intially but he is very distraught about me leaving again and asked me to stay for a few more week in order for him to mentally prepare. 18 month ago when our marriage initally broke down he transfered half my home into another family members name in order to defy my claim on the property. Which says to me - the mentally preparing was actually done then. Since I have been back he is VERY VERY insistant on me removing my claim on the other half in order for us to stay amicable and states that I should trust him. The time has come to leave again (children start new school after the holidays) but my hubby is full of tears but yet anger about the claim on the house. Ive left before and now it just feels harder - I know what I have to do but doing it is not as easy as it was the first time around - WHY???
2007-10-23 02:52:59 · 11 answers · asked by Me xx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is harder to leave the second time because you have become mentally adjusted to the problems that caused the breakup.
Now when you compare the problems with the good marital history, the problems don't seem as severe, and you are giving up the life where you had some comfort at some time.
2007-10-23 03:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ranger 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Major control and manipulation on his part and you are letting him get away with it. Get a lawyer A.S.A.P. because without one there will be abusive tactics so that he can get what he wants out of this. Too bad you cant file for divorce, temp full custody of kids and have him removed from the house because your children need the stability of the home and he needs to take care of his kids. What a control freak....ugh.....he will convince you to believe anything that you let him, I promise. If you want to believe it, he has the means to help you. Don't believe him, it is manipulation, not to be hard on him or anything. He probably cannot help himself, it is what he knows and probably core with him. No respect for you, your love, who you are, or what you do.....Kick him to the curb but quick.....S
2007-10-23 10:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too thought going back to an ex would be the answer... wrong.the same problems were there just as they always were please look forward and move along with your life without this man.you said you have children its not fair to them to be a yo-yo make a decision either way but make it stick to it.leaving the second time is harder due to remembering all the drama from the first.
2007-10-23 10:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is needy.
You don't need it.....
And as for putting your home in another family member's name? Tell the attorney about it. It looks like you will be hiring one.
Don't let this guy put you on some guilt trip. That's what he's trying to do, and it looks like he's succeeding.
2007-10-23 10:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Him making you feel guilty is working, I guess. By you sticking around just reinforces him to continue. I don't know what he means by mentally prepare. He's had his entire marriage to prepare. Just go, there is no easy way around it.
2007-10-23 10:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by CC 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is being mainpulative and you know it. He is using all weapons to get what belongs to you.
Leave now The reason why it is harder now? Because you know you've been duped and that is hard to admit
2007-10-23 10:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is like a band aid, you have to just do it, FAST. This guy sounds very scary. Just get up one day and GO!!!!!
2007-10-23 09:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to stay long enough for him to move all the assests so you won't get anything,and your doing it!
2007-10-23 10:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by notagain49 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
leave - and move on --- he's up to something--don't wait around to figure out what it is.
2007-10-23 11:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave and don't look back.
2007-10-23 09:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by stewart t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋