i have been with this guy for 5 years we have a 2 yr old son and he still continues to cheat on me with his ex.i'm ready to leave him but i want some advice.why do men cheat?is there something wrong with him?or me?i dont understand.i'm crushed and confused!
2007-10-23 02:52:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Continues to cheat on you? Thats your fault for not kicking his fanny to the curb the first time it happened. By staying with him after, you basically gave him a green light to continue doing it
2007-10-23 02:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by THE TRUTH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is no special reason why men or woman cheat. If we knew why the problem would be fixed. People cheat for several reason. But I think the #1 reason is not being happy in a relationship. Yes grant it, there won't always be happy times in relationships but some people are not willing to be patient and work through them the right way and remain faithful. #2 is just for the hell of it and convience. A person will get romantically involved with someone just because they can and it might be convient. Like a neighbor, work, friend things like that. Which is totally horrible. HORRIBLE!! But its the truth. And one thing is I've learned that after first time, it's not their fault, it's yours. A person is only gonna do what you allow. So you guys been together for 5 years and have a kid and he's still cheating. yes honey, it's not totally him. You have to leave or show him how life can and will be without you. Scare him a little.
2007-10-23 02:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you must be upset. I would be too! But one thing I have to ask you is, why would you continue to stay with someone who has cheated on you? I would leave after the first time. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with you. IT'S HIM! Once a cheater always a cheater, I'm sorry. I know you have a 2 year old son, but is your boyfriend really the type of role model you want for him? This guy is a jerk and you deserve so much more. I know it hurts and you have every right to be heart broken, but you owe it to yourself to leave. Tell that Rat BASTARD to stay the hell away from you. He's a selfish prick who wants it all and who will never change. Leave now while you still can. This guy is not worth your tears or your pain, he'll never change. That should be evident in the fact that he continues to cheat on you. NO MORE CHANCES, take your son and leave! You deserve better, MUCH MUCH BETTER!
2007-10-23 02:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PEOPLE cheat! because they are lazy! They are too lazy to work on the problems with the person that they are in the relationship, they rather go outside for instant gratification which only causes more problems. They are to immature to articulate or communicate their feelings to their spouse because that is to much like right. Not realizing that if they would only tell their spouse the spouses/partner would probably work at whatever it is. I mean most people want their relationships to work. SO his cheating is not your fault, even if it was something that you were or weren't doing he didn't man up and tell you so how could you change it or work on it? This isn't your fault by any means! But you said he continues to cheat, and I think that he will continue after this because their doesn't seem to be any consequence for it. But why do you accept this? Why don't you deserve a man that respects you and loves you enough to not hurt you in this way? I mean what kind of example are setting for your son? Is this how you want him to cheat his mate. If not, than don't set the example. Its not going to be easy for you to move on but I believe its time. Now I am not saying that he doesn't love you in some way, but what I am saying is he doesn't love you enough to put you and you guys family first. And that is unfortunatley what you need the most.
2007-10-23 03:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheats because he cannot tell you that he wants more than one person in his life, Men and women are not honest with each other in this aspect for fear of being left, of course I hope you do realize that you and the ex are not the only ones and if you don't leave him you will get a sexually transmitted disease the most common is the HPV virus this virus can lay dormant for years and 80% of the women have contracted it have sexually active partners and/or that continue to have unprotected sex, what does that mean for unborn children it means that the Sexually transmitted diseases can be passed on to the child, this situation does not just involve your health it involves the health of your child and or children. This isn't 50 years ago its not just about getting shots and an infection clears up in a couple of days this is not about crabs that can be washed away this about seriouse life threatening diseases HPV is the number one cause of cervicle cancer and we won't even discuss AIDS not to mention that if you get a sexually transmitted disease like Herpes (oozing pustules on the privates) just think of how many people are going to want to be with you after you have contracted a disease and THEN you decide to leave him. Get out of the situation now let him ruin someone elses life. Not yours and your childs.
2007-10-23 03:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read most of the responces, but no one touched on the real reason of why you stayed after you found out he was cheating with his ex-.... because you are a good mom and wanted your two yr old to have his father.
Well, continue to be a good mom and leave do not raise your son in this situtation and have him believe that this is how real men treat the women they love. Think about what he see's. look at things through his eye's. May God watch over you and your loved one's and guide you to the path of true love.
2007-10-23 03:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by BlackWidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men cheat and not all women are faithful! Yours just seems to be an arrogant a$$! I would leave in an instant. He may then realize how good he had it and come crawling back....or he may just go back to her?! This is your decision and only you can make it. I realize that it makes it more difficult when a child is involved, but do you want your son to grow up knowing that daddy has a girlfriend on the side and that you allow it?
2007-10-23 03:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by I hang with the BIG DOGS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is many reasons why men cheat. But if you are thinking of leaving or kicking him out then there are things you need to do.
Think about were you are going to live. Save money. Get a job. look for a good day care.
Its up to you if you continue with this relationship. Its your call
2007-10-23 03:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by debbri48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't just men that cheat. Plenty of women do also, you need to leave him. Maybe if you do he will realize what he had and grow up. He does this because he can. You let him by sticking around. I know it is easier said than done to leave him, especially with a child involved but that is what you need to do. Good Luck!
2007-10-23 03:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by = ) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please please dont imagine that there is something wrong with you. Men, like women, cheat for many different reasons and it is difficult to pin down. It is not your fault. All you can do in relationships is be loving and compassionate and if your partner cheats it is not your fault. It is very difficult, if not impossible to repair a relationship where one partner has cheated on a regular basis. But you must do what is right for you and your son. Remember if your son grows up watching his father cheat and his mother accepting it, that example can contribute to him taking the same path in life.
2007-10-23 03:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋