I have to see my ex husband for 2 hours - 4 hours a month at the most as of right now since he doesn't call to visit any other times. He has supervised visits and i supervise him because the court order we had isn't working so we did a mutual agreement at mc donalds and i supervise him and bring a friend of mine.....I get so sick when i have to see him though but i do it for the kids. He has NO problem with our agreement he signed it i signed it weve been doing this for a year now...
The only thing is we didnt notify the court but I heard that you dont have to if you agreed to something. That you only go to court when you DONT AGREE on things.
2007-10-23 02:07:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Feelings if "YUK" and "IDIOT" he did some REALLY stupid stuff as to why he has to be supervised but also things he did to his kids and me and he also is 20,000.00 behind in his court ordered child support
2007-10-23 02:25:41 · update #1
No the court didn't say who would supervise. Just that he can see them at the daycare supervised from 2-5. But my boss changed my hours, so we did a mutual agreement for mc donalds from 3-5 with me supervising or someone that would want to but NOBODY wants to watch him so I am he has no problem with it we have been doing it for a year.
2007-10-23 02:32:57 · update #2
It makes you sick because he's a jerk and you can't stand him? It's always sickening to have to put up with people who are a**holes. I can only imagine how disgusted you feel, and how difficult it is, but at least it's only once a month. And I think it's cool that you bring a friend, then you've got some emotional support, at least, and don't have to face him alone.
I don't know what the laws are in your area, but if he's not paying his child support, is it possible that you're not obligated to let him have visitation at all until he pays? That might be one way to get out of having to see him. But, if you feel you need to let the kids see him, anyway, then you really need to just find a place inside yourself where you can live with knowing he's a jerk, but you're doing what's best for your kids. If you believe in God, pray on it. :^)
I suspect, though, that deep down maybe you really doubt this is best for the kids. If he did such terrible things (you don't say exactly what - physical abuse? drugs? neglect?) that he can only see them SUPERVISED, and only once a month, then should he really be seeing them at all?
How do your kids feel about him? Do they enjoy seeing him? Or are they as disgusted as you are? In some states, children of a certain age have the right to request which parent they do and don't see. It might be time to revisit the court order, which as someone else mentioned, there are many services available if you can't afford it. Good luck!
2007-10-23 03:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by Torchbug 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to go back to court and let them know what is going on, especially if you are getting sick seeing him and hearing him. If he doesn't call or visit any other time, he may be doing this just because it bothers you or because he wants to see if he can get control of you again. If the visits have to be supervised, the court may be able to figure out a way of doing that without you having to do the supervision - supervision with his mother perhaps, or a court official in some areas, for example. If there is some reason the visits have to be supervised, perhaps the children might be better off not seeing him at all if he doesn't bother to visit any other time.
children are better off at time with a single parent who loves them rather than two parents divorced if there is a problem with one of the parents. If you didn't take the agreement to court because of money, you can get legal aid often to represent you for little or no money but you need to let the curt know what is going on so that you are protected if he starts doing something that you don't agree with.
2007-10-23 02:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WATEVER or must i say it like WATEEEEVEEEEERRRRR AS IT SEEMS TO BE AN EFFORT FOR KIDS TO GET IT OUT IT TAKES HALF A MINUTE ,ooohh how i hate that phrase,you realize what i imply ,are you going to wash your room waaaattteeevvvveeeerrrr ,are you going to consume with us at present watever ,are you going to take a seat there all day ,wwwateeeeever oh do not get me began i can be right here for hours ,i like my grandson dearly however confidently him and his mums apartment shall be completed in a while and i will be able to get again to my sofa potato approaches.
2016-09-05 20:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by gilbeau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of sick feeling? is it terror and excitement (your not over him) or a sick feeling like dread and disgust (you're over him)
2007-10-23 02:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋