I have to see my ex husband for 2 hours - 4 hours a month at the most as of right now since he doesn't call to visit any other times. He has supervised visits and i supervise him because the court order we had isn't working so we did a mutual agreement at mc donalds and i supervise him and bring a friend of mine.....I get so sick when i have to see him though but i do it for the kids. He has NO problem with our agreement he signed it i signed it weve been doing this for a year now...
The only thing is we didnt notify the court but I heard that you dont have to if you agreed to something. That you only go to court when you DONT AGREE on things.
2007-10-23 02:06:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Feelings if "YUK" and "IDIOT" he did some REALLY stupid stuff as to why he has to be supervised but also things he did to his kids and me and he also is 20,000.00 behind in his court ordered child support
2007-10-23 02:25:55 · update #1
No the court didn't say who would supervise. Just that he can see them at the daycare supervised from 2-5. But my boss changed my hours, so we did a mutual agreement for mc donalds from 3-5 with me supervising or someone that would want to but NOBODY wants to watch him so I am he has no problem with it we have been doing it for a year.
2007-10-23 02:32:32 · update #2
The worst thing in the world to hear is "I heard that you could"....
When it comes to Court Orders - you best be following the Court Order to a tee. Neither you nor your husband have the right to alter any Court Order. The both of you could get in trouble if you don't report the "change" to the Court. It all depends on what the Court Order says specifically.
If the Court Order appoints a specific person or agency to supervise the visits - and you aren't using that specific person or agency - then both of you could go to jail for violating a Court Order. Now - it is unlikely that would happen, but it could.
Go back to Court and ask the Judge to amend the Court Order. In addition, it sounds like the Court was right to appoint someone else to supervise because your feelings and emotions are already affecting your judgment and your health. This can't be good for the children.
2007-10-23 02:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sebamoop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get sick because you really dislike dealing with him but feel forced to do it so that your children can have contact with their father. Obviously this was not an amicable break up and you still have some hurt feelings and emotions to deal with. I certainly support you for doing whatever you feel necessary to ensure that your children can have time with their father even though you resent having to be there. Most people only get the court involved when they cant agree on things. As long as both of you are OK with how things are working out, you don't need to go back to court for any modifications. However, I would suggest that you look for someone else to supervise the visits. Do you have parents or siblings who would be willing to volunteer on a rotating basis?
2007-10-23 09:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would make sense if you allowed your friend to do the supervising. If seeing him is affecting your health, surely that makes sense.
If not, then maybe someone else would do it for you.
2007-10-23 09:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That must be awful and is bad for your health. Seek legal advice.
2007-10-23 09:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by holly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋