Has anyone had any situations involving a homewrecker? How was it handled? DId you get even?
2007-10-23 01:03:59 · 16 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A homewrecker-------- why blame the other one...its the SPOUSE that did something wrong.......the marriage was ruined either way you look at it it--doesn't matter WHO it was....the other spouse would have found another if it wasn't this person... The spouse is the one who said the..for better for worse...line...not the other woman.
If you go ahead and try to get even.. in the long run...its not her who ends up unhappy...its you....living in the past...getting even...always thinking about it..
my motto: MOve on and live a happy life.
The best revenge you can give the other woman......Is to let her have your man..he's a loser if he cheated anyways.
2007-10-23 04:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A potential homewrecker. It is a woman that just loves men. She would call all the time, come by. My husband the kind man he is didn't see what I saw or felt. But I noticed everytime I spoke bad about her he defended her. Hmmm time for a new strategy. I asked her over to dinner. I told her she could call me any time. I asked her to go shopping and out to eat and tried to become a "best" friend. She is no longer in our lives. :)
2007-10-23 01:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My husbands ex wife had two long term affairs with married men while married to him. She was living with a married man when I met my husband, this mans wife was in another country and waiting until she was able to come over with her children to be with him. She is always trying to break us apart. My experience is to know this person for what they are...make certain that my husband understands the sadistic motives behind her actions and to not worry about it too much. I think that it is by being happy, that gives the best revenge.....besides no bad karma is associated with that. These types of people are preying for what ever reason on a situation that they find desirable because they don't have the happiness inside of themselves....they want to take yours. If you don't let it happen, just recognize that they are living in a state of massive self destruction and constant unhappiness.....you will not feel anything for them. If you are with a man who falls for this....then you will be around to watch him suffer at the hands of her and won't have to do a thing.
2007-10-23 01:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Seems like the real problem lies with your MAN. It's possible she doesn't even know he's married or has a girlfriend. Men lie to get what they want. Why is your problem with HER instead of HIM?
Getting even doesn't make things better, it just drags things on. Put his stuff on the front yard and change the locks. That'll be the fastest way to get on with your life.
2007-10-23 03:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not a good idea to get even. The best revenge is when you show you are happy and have moved on! Guys HATE that when the women they dumped ends up doing much better and have started dating someone else.
2007-10-23 02:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes but I nipped it in the bud early. My husband had a co-worker who was constantly telling him her problems. Always wanted his advice. This young woman was on her second divorce.
I explained to my husband that she was trying to foster sympathy on him to try to get an emotional conecttion with him. At first he was angry with me, then he started seeing it for himself. Noone likes to be manipulated. He caught on pretty fast and distanced himself from her.
Hopefully it hasn't gotten so far out of hand that you can't get a handle on it. If so let it go. Heal and move on. Revenge only hurts the person looking for it.
2007-10-23 01:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My (now ex) had an affair with a perfectly awful woman - who took sadistic delight in wrecking several relationships in her day.
I let time take care of things with her. Today she is despised by many in that circle. Her husband (and a dear friend of mine) left her - as did many others who regard her with pity and contempt.
My ex's second dalliance was a long term affair with another woman who was perfectly lovely and wonderful. She was talented, charming, and we liked each other enough to come to "an understanding."
I despised the first woman he cheated with - but valued the second - she was the cellist in my string quartet, and a dear friend.
Now that is not to say that I LIKED the fact that my ex was unfaithful - but at least his second lover was much nicer than his first.
BTW I left him because of his violent nature. When I ended the marriage I shared my reasons with her. I believe she eventually left him too.
2007-10-23 01:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes...It was handled by me going down there and confronting her and telling her to bring her a** to the sidewalk so I can kick it...Did I get even hmmmmmmmm no 2 wrongs don't make a right!!
2007-10-23 01:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh yeah I had that situation, I told her to keep my husband left him, for what? he didn't handle the separation well he could not stand for me to have another he beg and beg but the whole time he was between us.. I gave him the choice if you can have others so can I it was killing him it was even funny, anyways he ended up having a child with this home wrecker and the child could not keep him with her, he broke up with her to follow me everywhere I go.. OK funny yet? lol
well this woman was so pist that she could not tear him from me that she turn in to a drug addict alchoholic and she did so many dumb things that I end up having my husband and her child wich is my daughter now.. we are back together living good with our three children and the homewrecker is paying us child support LOL
2007-10-23 01:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 8⤊ 4⤋
yeah many times with my ex, i dont no why but i always blamed the woman then 1 day when i had enough i txt the woman he was going out with and said you can have him he isnt worth it anyway, turns out she didnt want him either so i kicked him out he went running back to his mum. its not always the woman in the wrong they are normally single its the men that you need to blame they should no better.
2007-10-23 03:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋