In order to aviod confusion im asian.
Alos im sorry if i accidently offend any white people.
Okay the thing that i never understood about white people is that when it comes to things like divorce and stepparenting. They have this let the parents be happy attitude and they allow the divorce to happen despite the fact that they are upset about it. They also say its my parents life and they have the right to do whatever they want and i dont have a say in this.If thye are upset about the divorce why dont they speak out about it. Most of these things would have never happened if the marriage was arranged but then again white people will only marry for love(im sorry if i offend anyone but that made me physically sick)Also white never get close to their stepparents even thought they allow remmairge? Why do whites have lower family ties escpecially lower than asains?Why don'ty whites give arranged marriage a chance?Why cant they pick a life partner? If there upset about divorcing whynotspeak
2007-10-23 00:48:19 · 11 answers · asked by possessed by insanity 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
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Also why do whites when asked question like "my parents are agaisnt me marrying a jew and im muslim" they give an answer do whatever your heart tells you and dont listen to your parents and its not ure parents that are marrying?
also whites seems to be the largest race iwth the attitude- my friends are my real family
why do whites not care about family. And dont speak up about divorce? And have this idea of love is the greatest thing.
No wonders there are so many white cheeters
2007-10-23 00:51:08 · update #1
They don't believe in reincarnation. They believe this is the only chance they have on this earth so if you are not happy than fix it. They don't realise that the happiness is an illusion. They are also more effected by what their friends think of them than the family.
2007-10-23 00:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by ss 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
For years divorce was not an acceptable option here or the parents would stay married until the children left. This in many ways was just as bad for the children if not worse.
The major differences between the two systems is that you are raised with a different set of expectations and you still have the strong norms against divorce, however you go into the arranged marriage with the idea that it is something that you need to make work and you're stuck with it whereas Americans/western thought is that if love is there it will work out.
There are other factors, but you need to fully understand that neither system is perfect and you are presenting the good of your system while pointing out the bad in the western system without any statistics or solid analysis to back up your observations and conclusions. You are also conveniently ignoring the fact that humans by nature are not monogamous and while staying with a single like partner is a good goal, our internal wirering is not setup to really support that.
2007-10-23 01:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a white male transplant living in the south, and let me tell you, racism is alive and well on ALL sides of that coin. White, black, hispanic, asian, it's crazy down here. One good thing I've noticed though, is even if people in minority groups are quick to judge based on color, many of them will rethink their outlook once they see you aren't racist. It's almost like racism is expected and the norm, a sad state really. That being said, I'm not racist. My wife is not white, my child is only partly white. Color means nothing to me, it's all about attitude. Reading your question, I have to say you DO sound a little racist. Not in a negative, hating way, but labeling anything mainstream as "already white" and that's why minorities want their own TV/clubs/etc. is a racist comment. All things mainstream are meant for everyone regardless of color. And wanting race-specific entertainment and clubs is fine! Don't get me wrong. However, while many of you here wouldn't see a problem with white-specific entertainment, if such a thing were to arise (WET, white hsitory month, etc.), there would be a HUGE outcry from many in minority groups. You know that as well as I do. I see no problem with being proud of your heritage at whatever level, as long as everyone else is allowed the same.
2016-05-25 01:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. I gotta laugh, cause i'm just so shocked at all of the incorrect assumptions you've made.
I for one, married the man I fell in love with. And I have NO intention of getting a divorce. We agreed on that before we even got married, that we weren't getting divorced, this was a forever thing.
How do YOU know that people ARE happy about divorce? Kids get murdered all the time, just because it happens, it doesn't mean people are HAPPY about it!
How do YOU know that step-families AREN'T just as close as blood families? Sometimes blood families aren't even friends at all. It's got nothing to do with how related you are.
You may be happy with arranged marriages (either because you're a bad catch, but you'll still get to be married, or because the woman you were forced to marry is way out of your league) but most people hate the idea of having to marry someone that they barely know. If there were arranged marriages for everyone, then divorce rates would sky rocket!
I am incredible close to my family, not because i feel obligated to them, like i know some asians do (I have asian friends who feel this way), but because I love them.
This question is very presumptuous, and very condescending, and yes it IS offensive.
Get over yourself, asians may be a major part of the world's population, but you're NOT the master race. We're all human.
After reading your additional stuff, i'm getting the impression that your hunny cheated on you? Don't take your problems out on the rest of the world. I'm not a cheater. And I DO LOVE MY FAMILY! Yes i have good friends, who I call family, but i don't ignore what my parents have to say, they approved of my hubby emphatically.
2007-10-23 00:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by A derka der 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It all just comes down to cultural differences and how you are raised. For me, as the typical "white girl" arranged marriage seems totally ridiculous because I wasnt raised in a society that works that way. As far as people not being close with step parents. My Husband is not the Father of my children and my kids absolutely adore him and call him daddy, they know he isnt their biological Father and they have a relationship with their real Dad. I dont think what your asking is offensive by the way.
2007-10-23 00:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some religions teach that unforgiveness is sin. So people in with cultures hardly divorce for fear of sinning. A smaller %age of whites is religious compared to other races. I would expect divorce rates to be affected by the religious view.
2007-10-23 02:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by St Lusakan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an African American woman married to a White man who cherishes marriage more than anything... He totally disagrees with divorce and he's very devoted to our marriage no matter what we may go through... you need to stop generalizing and know that we as people are individuals with different standards and morals... those who judge are lost in this world..
2007-10-23 01:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by ░▒▓► Aqua Fires 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speaking as a American white male, I do not take offense on this at all.Even if you said hey round-eye,why u so stupid!!!
In America lots of people look for the easy way out.People look to others,who are stupid, for advice,then take it.Other people are doing it so why can't I BS.Why fix the problem when you can runaway from it? Stupid people breed faster also.
2007-10-23 01:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by arcadegamefreak 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It has more to do with standard of living than with color of the skin. The more money people have, the more they feel they can do whatever in order to be happy in their life.
2007-10-23 00:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a white woman divorced from an Asian man.........same in any culture....
2007-10-23 00:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by deb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋