Why won't people leave me alone?

Question

About me:

I'm 25 years old. After turning 18, I did four years in the military and ever since I've been out I've been going to college and studying computer science. Throughout my entire life, I have preferred to be alone. I go to the movies alone. I eat alone. I live alone. When I am at school, I read alone, and study alone. Catch the trend? I just want to be left alone. I am sick of people accusing me of being lonely and having social issues. I am not lonely--I just don't like anyone and I want to be left alone at all times and in every aspect of my life. I only talk when the situation demands it--such as at work or when dealing with co-workers and in-class discussions.

Can you tell me if there is something fundamentally wrong with people to not understand that people like me exist? I live alone, travel alone, and one of these days I will die alone.

So back to my original question--why won't people get the drift and leave me alone? Are any of you like me?

Answer 1

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. There are many people in the same boat as you. I too for many many years had no friends. I raised a family and worked. I ended up getting hurt at work and could not work anymore but I did spend a lot of time in my garage doing woodwork. I wasn't a socializer. It seemed that most people wanted to either drink or smoke pot, listen to ear splitting music (noise) and party. That life wasn't for me. I rode motorcycles and only on occassion would I ride with others. I quickly earned the nickname "loner"...I wasn't anti-social, I was just a quiet guy who loved nature and valued peace and quiet. Today, I an approaching 60, I still have few friends but they are quality friends who are indeed 'friends' in every sense of the word. No demands, no expectations and occassional visits with one another to touch base with each others lives and to let each other know we love him/her.

You would probably do well in something like art or photography. Getting out in nature and spending time with God's creation. I love doing that. I've been told I have an eye for it. I see things that others don't or they pass over. It's fun to spend time hiking alone, getting those shots. It's soothing to the soul.

Others may have a hard time with that. A lot of people can't even enjoy the peacefulness of being in the mountains without having music blasting in their ears...And they can't possibly understand someone who loves to hear...."Nothing" but the gentle breezes of the wind through the tree's or water in a stream.

Find ways to do the things you love to do. Don't worry about others and what they think. Many are single and love it and would never have it any other way...Most people have the "You don't do and act as me there must be something wrong with you" syndrome. ACCCCKKKK! Do what makes you happy and content...

Answer 2

There isn't anything wrong with you. Alot of times I'm alone, too. I like it and know what you mean. Only you understand why you don't like people, however. It may be perfectly fine for you now, but later on you may get lonely or sick and a good friend or family member being on your side might become useful.

Answer 3

Yeh keep your creativity about you... I think it is a curse and a blessing to realise as a person you are essentially alone. But it is also a position of calm from which to move from... after all it takes great flexibility to move in challenging directions. I tend to stick to my plans and usually they involve things where people go "okay, your crazy"... and if someone wants to come, then I relish the opportunity to see raw emotion expressed in their face... especially fear of heights or something. I guess for me, my point to you , is take up the inner challenge you are confronted with and adapt to the situations as they arise... this takes skill... A good primer for this challenge is a cool set of books called The Lymond Chronicles, by Dorothy Dunnett. Its written by a chick but man they are cool and fierce!
Or learn Zen!

Answer 4

am just like you, but , alas, people will always be people. you just gotta get a thick skin and learn the true art of ignoring them. i have mastered this because, it doesnt bother me when people bug the crap out of me anymore, u just gotta be creative in response so that they will continue leaving you a lone. think of things to say where people back up and say, this guys nuts. then they will leave you alone. but be creative.

Answer 5

I get so emotional, whenever I believe of GCG. And via emotional, I imply I would not dare defile his holy identify. I worry being reduce, and the MaryJo Buttafucco appear effortlessly does not paintings for me!

Answer 6

You sound so very unpleasent that leaving you alone should be quite easy for people. I don't understand why they don't!!