ALL of my old friends are bringing me down...I am going to college but I commute so it's hard for me to meet people there. I don't really feel like joining a club either...My old friends smoke a lot of weed, they drink a lot, most aren't going to school, never have any money, and some are just plain assholes. They are just not very good friends because they tend to use me....I can't really explain it but I am in a bad space whenever I am around them and feel depressed because I feel like they are bringing me down...I feel hurt when they exclude me from things, but when I am around them I don't really want to be there either...Almost all of them are losers and are really bitchy towards me and I don't even know why...how can I get new friends?
2007-10-22 20:37:37 · 5 answers · asked by PP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Good for you for moving past that stuff!!! WTG! Seems like you have a pretty straight head on your shoulders...
Well first thing, first... I would stop hanging out with these "friends"... who needs enemies when you have friends like that? Using and abusing... the truth of the matter is TRUE friends that will be there for YOU, with out expecting anything in return are few and far between. I think you should consider what you qualities you would want in your new friends. Most likely you want them to have something in common with you, as these young kids don't. I know you said you dont feel like joining a club, but this is where you will find people that ARE on your level. It could be a good experience all around. Just like if you were looking for a serious relationship, you wouldnt go to the bar to find it... if you are looking for a good friend, you have to search in different places other than high school. Find a club that intrests you and I am sure there, you will find a great friend that you just "click" with... good luck.
2007-10-22 21:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy to 1+triplets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get real clingy and never have money, a car or anything but bad/insane advice to offer them. Stop making sense and they will stop calling you in short order. You will need to get over this "feeling hurt when they exclude you" thing as it is counter-productive to project runaway. You can do it! TV is a great pacifier and you will make many, many more weed smoking loser friends in college. Join a frat!
2007-10-23 03:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by ADubya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunni, I think you know what to do.
Starting today, stop all contact with them. Don't answer their phone calls, sms's or emails. Just slowly start moving away from the crowd. If you do happen to bump into them - explain politely that you have been very busy at college & you have to run.
Good luck & I'm happy that you've realised the bad in your life.
Mwah xox
2007-10-23 03:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by angelface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
letting the old friends go is a start sweetheart..delete there number..delete them out your life..it does sound like you have outgrown them..and they are only dragging you down..youdont need that negativity in your life..how about getting on facebook.com or myspace.com and looking up kids that go to your college..and strike up a conversation with them? thats another way to meet people..start going out to event in college..like football games step shows..things like that..frat parties..pool parties..so you can get to know people..at your job you can meet people..in the mall..the opportunities are endless.
2007-10-23 03:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out there and meet new people, talk to people at college and in your classes. go out for coffee with them and get to know them. plenty of people out there but you gotta get yourself out there and be approachable
2007-10-23 03:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋