Why do so many consevatives blame the media for their teens wanting to have sex?

Question

Hasn't it ever occured to anyone of them that maybe their teenage kids just want to get laid. They say MTV and movies pressure kids to have sex. What's up with that

for the guy who mentioned back than the media encouraged abstinance until you are maried. Well here's one for you back than people got married at like thirteen years old. from biblical times to the 1800's look at Edgard Allan Poe's wife.

Answer 1

media did not influence me to have sex as a teen so I have no clue why they think that. Kinda like kids now have to wear helmets to ride a bike...lol I am still here and so are my friends and their friends...

Answer 2

Because we remember a day when, although every normal teenager has a sexual drive that they seek to fulfill, the cultural expectation was that you would wait until marriage before losing your virginity. (Granted, it was more of an expectation on women than men, but that's a different issue.) The mainstream media's programming provided a steady stream of role models and messages that supported this ideal.

I'm only 44, but I remember the concept in highschool of the "easy" girls; those who were sexually active. They were the tiny minority. That's not to say some of the "good" girls weren't also sexually active, but, again, you could be a virgin without feeling like a freak; on the contrary, there was pressure on you NOT to lose your virginity prior to marriage, and all the mainstream media images of the time supported that ideal.

Today, the media leaves you with a very clear impression that you are "abnormal" if you aren't sexually active. If a parent, who desires to guide and raise their children to sexual abstinence before marriage, their battle is nearly impossible because the message that such a moral standard is laughably "old fashioned" is everywhere.

In fact, I would say, today, the pervasive media message is way beyond that point: it's now to the point where you're a poor parent if you're trying to restrain your children from this "normal, healthy and open sexual expression." The "openly sexual is normal" message is in every medium, every type of programming, all day, every day. Just TRY and find any consistent and regularly scheduled mainstream media message of chastity (now THERE"S an old-fashioned word), modesty, and sexually fidelity in the context of marriage.

(To give an old favorite example, I'd suggest a movie like "The Sound of Music." It's such a BIG DEAL, a real point of "drama" in the truest sense of the word, when the oldest daughter and her beau dance and then KISS in the rain. Just a simple, but beautifully romantic meeting of the lips. That's it. If that movie were made today, I can assure you, the scene would CERTAINLY have gone a LOT farther.)

Add in the "gay, bi, lesbian and transgendered" message, and the "conservatives" like me feel like the media has absolutely and completely abandoned the social mores we used to collectively hold as a nation. Watch what will follow: more perversions, darker forms of sexual promiscuity; a complete abandonment of anything that resembles the normal "mom, dad and 2.5 or more kids" ideal that was around for centuries, and that conservatives like me still believe in, largely on a biblical, religious basis.

Even if you don't share the bible or religion perspective, I don't think the American culture will survive on its current path. The path of total sexual liberalization logically ends in a very ugly and bad place culturally-speaking. We're only just beginning to see it now.

Answer 3

watch a TV show, say a sit com, with a pen and paper and write a check mark each time a sexual comment or event takes place on the show. You probably can't check fast enough to keep up. If sex is in the media 24/7, and it is, it fills the minds of all of us and makes sex seem the central part of living when actually it is just one part of life. There is too much sex in the media. Cheating and lusting day and night is portrayed as normal. It's not.

Answer 4

I don't see how you can't understand this? Basically what you see everday has a affect on you. If you surround yourself with nudity and all of that, you are going to get caught up in it. You know, not that long ago, 12 year old acted like 12 year olds who did "kid" stuff. Now they all want to act like 18 year olds and the media is helping with that. Along with the public school, some of which are handing out free birth control to 11 year olds! All who idolize Hollywood and MTV stars.