My 17.5 YO Stepdaughter want to run?

Question

My 17.5 YO Stepdaughter want to run away from her grandmother's who is her guardian, and who is moving them all to WA to CA. She is at my house since friday, and wants to stay. We called CPS, and the police. No one will help us. Any ideas on how we can keep her?

My 17.5 YO Stepdaughter wants to run away from her grandmother's who is her guardian, and who is moving them all to WA from CA. She has been at my house since friday, and wants to stay. We called CPS, and the police. No one will help us. Any ideas on how we can help her stay in CA with us? She dosen't want to go to WA.

Answer 1

Depending upon the laws in your state, you may be able to.

I live in South Carolina and chose to move out of my parents house at 17. The police could not make me come back, I was "of age" to leave. You might want to find out what the law is because there might be a possibility that she can stay with you because of her age.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Why do you call her 17-1/2 just like a chlld would do? She's 17! She is NOT 18 and not legally an adult. 17 year olds are notoriously emotional and overly dramatic. Her hormones are running rampant. Of course she wants to be with you! She's only been there since Friday. Is she pitching in with the chores? Doing her homework? Or is it party-time? Why are you catering to her behavior instead of speaking privately with the adults in this situation?

And in your first sentence you should say your stepdaughter "wants" (not want) to run away. And how can someone move them all "to WA to CA." Which is it? WA? Or CA? You can move someone FROM somewhere TO somewhere else.

You need to consult with an attorney. If you are truly serious about this you and your husband won't mind paying for the legal work. Why do you whine and say "no one will help us?" The police and CPS can only enforce what the COURT has ordered. They are not there to listen to you go on and on - they have to follow the judge's orders! Are you an adult or a teenager yourself?! You should know all this before you decide to take over the custody and responsibility of raising a teenager. Are you prepared to pay for her college education? (Not that I believe for one minute that she will actually have the self-discipline to go to college.) You'd better sit down with an attorney and educate yourself about what is required before you listen to some teenager's dramatic pleas.

Answer 3

Why dont you and your spouse(her parent) have custody? At 17 there isnt really a whole lot her grandmother can do to make her move. Why would you call CPS? there is nothing going on that is harmful to the teen is there? Anyway have your child go to a judge and state the reasons she wants to stay in wa. There needs to be more to it than my friends are here. She will have to prove that she will be living in a decent environment and that she has the means to care for herself. She can also try to get herself emancipated.

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Answer 4

You need to find out what the legal Age of Consent is where you live.
It can vary from state to state.
Most places it is 18, but in some, it's younger.

If it's under 18 then she can choose where ever she wants to live without having to go to court, or having any legal help.

If it is 18, or above, then your best option is to take it to court.
Most states at least have the law that states that anyone 12 and older can choose (on their own) what parent/gaurdian/family member they want to live with.

Ask a lawyer what the legal Age of Consent is, and get their opinion on what you should do in this situation.

Answer 5

At 17.5 she is in some states, considered as an emancipated, and can choose for herself as to where she wants to live. In other states at that age, when it goes to court, the court will consider her choice as acceptable if it is a good alternative and/or if the cause is justified. Check on the web for "Emancipated in the State of........(Your State). This will give you a correct answer. Good Luck! You may be smart to consult an attorney after getting the info from the web.

Answer 6

Do you mean moving her from WA to CA. I live in WA and here when a child is 12 they can choose who they want to live with. All she needs to do is talk to the judge. The judge most likely will not make her move since she is almost 18.

Answer 7

get a lawyer. get her emancipated from her grandmother. she is 17.5 at 18 she is an adult and can do as she wants and gramma has no legal say. by tying gramma up in the courts your step daughter will have to stay in the area as the court proceeds. gramma will have to stay as well. my cousin's wife had a similar situation and was emancipated from her parents filing papers with the court at 17. it tied her parents up in the courts until she was emancipated. she was not moved out of state because the court told her parents that they had to remain there while the court decided.

Answer 8

no remember if or no longer your stepdaughter wears thongs, make up or her hair is two tone are subject concerns that undertaking her mom and dad basically. A step mum or dad shouldn't intrude with what may be the job of the mummy or dad. in case you do your stepdaughter will basically resent you for it. i understand that may no longer what you opt to hearken to, besides the shown fact that this is actual. The function of a step mom or dad isn't undemanding and takes particularly some endurance. Any discipline could be dealt with via her father. My husband tried to be a father to my 2 infants and failed because of the fact he assumed the function of their father. My infants got here to resent him for this. i understand now that if I had dealt with all discipline our lives could have been a lot much less complicated. Your stepdaughter is barely 14 and believe me it basically gets worse earlier it gets greater useful. you could shop your self particularly some heartache via changing the form you react to her now. this is too previous due for me, my infants are already grown besides the shown fact that it is not too previous due for her or you. Insist that your husband step up and take duty, be a father. do no longer permit him shift the duty off on you. i believe that he does not opt to discipline her because of the fact he does not opt to be the undesirable guy. properly that's what parenting is all approximately, being the undesirable guy each and every so usually. infants in many cases have sufficient friends they choose mum and dad which will instruction manual and coach them to develop into wholesome, happy and to blame adults. good success!

Answer 9

why call cps? doesnt she sit and talk to you she is running away from someone?? she is grown but its best to talk to her why call the police this will be on record and she may want to be a law enforcement officer whenshe gets older and this will make it hard for her. the police are not counselors they help fight crime and prevent crime. communication must be lacking try not to judge her on her choices its very hard to be a young woman she is under alot of pressure and home should be home not even more stress! she needs a parent stil to helpher find her nitch in life she doesnt need to go to jail for running away.
she wont try and run away if she felt compfortable at home!

Answer 10

Why does she not want to go..? Why does she want to stay with you and not her grandmother..? Why IS she with her grandmother..?

Tell her in a few months she will be 18 and can live with whom ever she wants. Tell her to wait it out...

That is better then getting worked up over nothing..