How do you deal with the depression steming from the loss of the old ones? How to let go????
2007-10-22 17:05:29 · 6 answers · asked by Praire Crone 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
That's easy, Ms Crone. FOCUS. Focus on your NEW goal, on planning your new path and determine the tolls that you need to bring along and what should be left behind. Soon, you're TOO busy to even give much thought and attention to what what adandoned.
BB,
Raji the Green Witch
2007-10-23 02:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your new goals are not making you happy enough to make up for the loss of the old ones, maybe you are going in the wrong direction with the new ones. Pick something that you can look forward to and that you can picture yourself being happy once they are accomplished and that will be so interesting and fulfilling that you won't need the old ones anymore. If you can't find anything like that, then maybe you should look at why you dumped the old ones to begin with - maybe they are still the right way to go.
2007-10-22 17:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Roxcy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have either achieved or outgrown your old goals. I am just guessing here, but do you think that your goals are now unrealistic or unattainable? Even if your present situation makes your goals difficult, that doesn't mean you shouldn't try for them. They wouldn't be called goals if they were easy. And if you still think they are just too difficult, that's OK, but at least you made a conscience choice to take a different path. Makes you feel like you are more in control of your own future or destiny.
2007-10-22 17:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a goal that gives back to the community, whether that community be in Nigeria or your own backyard.
Find a small something somewhere and nurture it. A plot of land that has a tree needs someone to water it. Be that waterer.
I have found that when I feel that I haven't done everything I want to yet, and perhaps I feel resentments bubbling up, it helps me to find something to take me completely out of myself and get me off the pity pot! I found this wonderful organization called The Heifer project, in which you buy a goat or some chickens or a tree for a starving community, and the gift goes to one who will use it and pall it along to benefit the whole community. For example, if you buy one person a goat, it will keep that one family from starvation, provide milk and transportation, wool, etc, and will be able to be "passed " along as a gift to another family by breeding and making more goats! They are online, and if you want to do some good, this is a good one.
Another good one is Kiva.org, which is a micro loan organization. If you haven't heard of this type of organization, it is a moan organization, and you are the bank. You can loan a person $25 and help buy them something to start of expand their business, and they pay you back. Yesterday, when resentments were making me feel restless and a bit blue, I looked at Kiva's website, and put $100 toward the purchase of a new fridge for a woman in Peru who has 4 kids to support, and is running a soda stand out of her house.
I really recommend this. When she gets her new fridge, a light will shine on her, and that light will reflect back and warm me when I start to feel this world has gone cold on me.
Warm blessings and hugs my friend,
Lady Morgana )0(
2007-10-22 17:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Morgana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you make goals and then set them too high you set yourself up for failure and then depression for not reaching them. I think we all have a purpose in life and if you live life on life's terms it will all come to pass.
2007-10-22 17:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by debbie f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just the lull {indecision} before the fall, the fall into the unknown.
2007-10-22 18:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋