Is it still ok to cry?

Question

My moma passed away from stomach cancer in 2001, she was 42 and I was 24. I couldn't have asked for a better mom and best friend. I love her so much. Six years later I'm still breaking down every once in a while and crying myself to pieces. I have bad dreams that do not help either. I guess what I'm asking is will it ever get any easier? Is it still ok to cry?

Answer 1

its ok to cry........were human.
but the wrong is, your breaking down, which she dont want(your mom) to see.
i know your mom taught you to carry on, take the burden then throw away the pain after.
it will be easier if you do your part and that is to remember that you didnt lost your mom, shes just beside you still taking care of her baby.
shes never been gone, for her embrace today are those words that she left for you to carry on this life, little darling.
everything will be fine, everything, she just beside you.

Answer 2

Of course its ok to still cry. You'd been with your Mom for 24 years, 6 years isnt enough time to erase her memory.You'll probably cry for a long time to come. My Mom passed last year of Colon Cancer and like your mom she was my best friend and the best Mother a child could ever hope for. She was the sweetest person I'd ever come across and everyone thought so. I loved her soooooo much. Although my mom passed away only last year I know that for the rest of my life I'll have those days when I'll mourn her loss. For me everytime I do something I've never done before It makes me so sad, because we had the type of relationship where I'd call her on the spot to tell her about what I'd seen or experienced. They say it gets easier but you'll never get over it. All the best to you and I hope things get a little easier to deal with as time goes on. But absolutely nothing wrong with still crying.

Answer 3

You have every right to still cry. Are you feeling any guilt for her death? It has been six yrs, but that is not supposed to ever erase the lifetime of memories you had with her. You should look at it in a positive way, that you are still that passionate about her. Sounds like her memory lives in you very strongly. If you are worried and crying too often try some counceling for grief. I know many people that tried to be too strong and broke down into a depression 10+ yrs after a death of a loved one. Keep on remembering and keep on living....Besides crying makes you human and it is actually healthy for your eyes from time to time.

Answer 4

It is more than ok to cry. I kind of know how you feel...my mother didn't pass away, but my grandfather, whom I was VERY close to, passed away almost a year ago, 3 days before my 18th birthday. There are days where I remember him and things we used to do and it makes me break down into tears.

You lost your mom, your best friend...you have every right in the world to cry.

I'm very sorry for your loss and I'm sure in time the crying will pass for the most part, but you will forever remember her and some day will be harder than others. I don't know if I can say it will get easier, per say, but you will learn to accept her death more and in time you will learn to reflect on the wonderful times you had together and the wonderful things she taught you :)

I hope this helps and once again, I am truly sorry for your loss.

Answer 5

The grieving process is slow, takes time, and does not have a rhyme or reason. It sounds like you have processed her death (I am truly sorry for your loss) more and are healing.

When we work through pain and are at different points in our life where we want to share with the people we love and miss, sometimes the wound opens and the pain feels new and expansive.

Be gentle with yourself. Offer yourself a chance to grieve. Seek a church/synagogue support group. Do something that she loved doing that you shared with her as a tribute. Pray about it. See a counselor if this continues long term, but crying is cleansing and healthy. She would not want you to internalize your emotions. That is a dangerous trend.

Journal your dreams as well. In that state between sleep and awake, we often have so many issues that we deal with. Take the power away and heal!

My thoughts are with you... and your mom is blessed to have had such a loving bond with you...

Answer 6

Yes it is ok to cry! I lost my dad almost 2 years ago, and I can still cry when I hear the song I danced with him at my wedding. Or when I see a certain picture or remember something special.

I had a friend who cried everyday for her brother even 20 years after he died.

It does get easier, but it will NEVER go away, that is part of loving them!

If you feel like it, go ahead and cry...no matter how long it takes! I do!

Answer 7

Yes it is alright to CRY. It lets you release all the feeling you are having and helps you to cope with the lost. No two people will handle the lost of a loved one the same way. So if you feel like crying then cry because it is only you that knows how you truly feel. There is no time limit on grieving. My heart goes out to you because I lost my only brother when he killed himself and eventhough it has been six years there days when it hits me like a ton of bricks that he is gone and how it happened. The thing that helped me most was writing him letters to let him know how I was feeling. I knew he would never see them but it made me feel better.

Answer 8

Of course it it. My great grandfather passed away the first day of 3rd grade. I am 25 now, and I still get a little teary eyed when I talk about him. And he wasn't even my parent.

My husband lost his mother when he was 11 he is now 24 and every year on her birthday and the day of her death he is a total mess.

Everyone greives differently. If it is bothering you that you are still very emotional about it, I would recommend seeing a counselor. That will help you talk out some of the pain. It will NEVER EVER go away, but it will get easier over time.

Hope that helps, take care and good luck.

Answer 9

Of course it is still ok to cry. Everyone mourns on their own schedule. It was a horrible thing that happened to you and you should not be ashamed. Although the grief will always be with you and you will always miss your mom, it will get easier i promise. But if you feel like crying then go ahead and cry because that is the only way it will get easier.

Answer 10

It is always okay to cry. I'm just hoping that you aren't crying all day everyday. You are allowed to cry, but you need to be able to live a relativly normal life. It will be hard, but the pain will go away a little... never completely, because then you would have forgotten her. She was obviously close to you. So, you will not forget. You will have a small burden when you think about her, but you will be fine as long as you try to be better. It is always okay to cry, though. It is always alright to cry.

Answer 11

You have every right to grieve and mourn your mother's death. It seems that you had a very special relationship with her.

As you may have already noticed, the days have gotten better since your mother's death. However, do not believe that it is not ok for you to grieve in moments of remembrance or after dreams.

The grieving process can be extremely long ... for some, it may last years. Throughout this, however, do not forget to live, in order to honor your mother and her memory.

Laslty, if you feel as though the dreams and grieving are interferring in your daily life, you may want to consider getting professional help to assist you with the process. For some people, healing after such a tragedy can be extremely stressful and overwhelming. It is ok to get help in healing.