how do i get my wife to be more submissive and more like a wife?

Answer 1

I don't believe wives are submissive anymore. I believe that was in a time where the husband was the bread winner and handled everything and the wife needed to be submissive. Now both partners are working and supporting the household and kids and etc. So things are on a even scale now. But if being submissive was something that you just had to have I think you should have made that clear prior to getting married. You can't marry someone and then expect the to change. You should read Dr. Robin Smith's latest book "Lies at the Altar". I think you will find it very insightful.

Answer 2

Thats not really something you can change in a person. Your opinion of what a wife should be like is obviously not going to be the same as everyone else. If you are not happy with how your relationship is you should be thinking if its worth the compromise to stay with her or if maybe this relationship is not going to work out. You can not make someone have a more submissive personality.

Answer 3

Tiger, you're probably asking the wrong question. If the thing you want to know is "How can I be happier in my marriage?" then that answer is relatively simple. As ye sow, so shall ye reap.
What have you done for your wife lately that would make her want to do things for you. If you are distressed that she is not cookin' and cleanin' enough then what you need is your Mom. Your wife isn't staff, she's your partner. If you're talking about your sex life.... well, same answer. Offered any compliments lately? Maybe a foot massage or scrubbed kitchen and a couple of laundry loads? These things make partners feel more cherished than a sullen pawing.
Think about it carefully bud. If what you want is property, that's obviously something your woman didn't sign on for.
The answer to the question you posed is, you can't.

Answer 4

Concentrate on yourself first. You have to act like a husband, do your part, and treat her with love. The rest will follow. You cannot force your wife to be submissive. I would recommend that you read the book "Love and Respect" by Emerson Eggerich and "For Men Only" by Feldhahn.

Would you want to be married to a person like yourself? Are you putting her first or is it all about you?

Answer 5

Follow the adage, "you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." Give her reasons to fall in love with you all over again, and she will repay your kindness by actually caring about you and wanting to care for you. As for "submission," if you were really looking for this quality in a wife when you got married, look at things through her eyes and ask yourself if you'd want her to do some of the things you expect her to do. If you wouldn't do them yourself for her, I wouldn't think it would be fair of you to expect her to do them for you just because you are a man and she is a woman.

Answer 6

Cater to her first. U catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Be submissive to her first. Ask her y she's like this. Most women know how a husband might like them to be(simply because they've seen their moms and dads interact). Marriage is a learning experience for u both, so u should communicate. IF she feels she's not being taken care of by u...she might rebel by not being "a wife" in ur eyes. I'm sure once she's open to communication and u guys work ur problems out, u'll reach a workable compromise on how to lead a successful married life. Good luck.

Answer 7

You are leaving out information that is needed to answer you fairly. Based on the word submissive I'm gonna give it a shot. Having a submissive woman will cost you. Your price is, self sacrifice,devotion,honesty,respect and enough love to die for her. Your reward is: she will usually give back ten times what you give her.

Answer 8

Be her best friend. Remember how you were nice to her when you were dating, and were trying to convince her how wonderful you would be to her? Go back to that place and be sincere. Treat her like a thoroughbred, and she won't be a nag. I am my wife's best friend, and she is my best friend. We BOTH do all we can to be good for each other. The more consideration you show her, the more she will want to please you. The responsibility is yours. Do all YOU can do, and she will come around of her own free will. You are the man, be a leader and set an example.
Read the book, "Do yourself a favor, love your wife".

Answer 9

Marriage is an equal partnership.

If you are looking for a maid, hire one, but do not expect your wife to be a servant.

You need to grow up, or you won't be married very long.

Live in the real world, or lose in the imaginary one.

Answer 10

Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a king!..

You know there are reasons many women losed their respect to their husbands because their husbands became dull and unattentive to their wives. These husbands after several years of married to their wives gradually changed their attitutudes and becoming more selfish and egoistic attitutudes to neglect their own obligations and responsibilities to their own wives. There are many husbands who are good only when the relationship was fresh and as it goes on years their relationship their sweetness to their wives fading away that's why some of these wives becoming desperated to lose their respect and not submissive to their husbands.