He jumps over stuff when trying to get somewhere fast, and often wears things that don't match. I've tried to help, and he thinks I'm trying to change him. I just want him to act more like an adult. I don't think wearing tube socks with dress shoes is cool, and sometimes people see him hop over a chair and see that I'm embarrassed. These are only a couple of things. Otherwise, he's a very mature man. Should I be upset at his behavior?
2007-10-22 15:01:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I bet you fell in love with him because he was a fun person to be around. Now that you are married it seems immature. He's still the same guy. Don't try to change him, it won't work. Don't be upset. Maybe set his clothes out for him when you want him to dress a certain way. Enjoy the man you fell in love with.
2007-10-22 15:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why be upset about anything, except injustice?
Why be embarrassed when a person is not hurting you or anyone else? YOU are the one with the problem. You ARE trying to change him. Grow up and enjoy the fun that this man has. If he is a good wage earner and is responsible in the important ways. leave him alone. Maybe he has asbergers syndrome (look it up)
2007-10-22 15:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Honey, you aren't the only one. I live with my sister and she has so much more trouble with her husband than with her kids. He never listens, he's always playing x-box, he ... I mean...I could list so many things. My sister stresses over what he does and doesn't do so much. I tell her that one minute lost in anger is one minute lost in happiness. Right now, I'm telling you the same thing. If your husband wants to dress mix-matched clothes, let him. He's the one looking stupid. You may be embarrassed at times, or most of the time, but just let it go. Don't stress the small stuff.
2007-10-22 15:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Eloisa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might be fun if you were to join him in the get away and act like a kid yourself. It might be fun. I did not see anything that would affect the normal things in life or create adversity. Try it, this will give you both something in common and be a good get away from the mainstream of life. Escape with him and see what he sees. All you have to miss is the fun.
2007-10-22 15:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no you should not be upset. Not all guys have good style and not all men care about style. You did know this before you married him ? My Husband is 30 and is still very immature in many ways . He is also very mature in other ways. It is just who he is. Go with the flow. I do have to say I laugh at my hubby sometimes because it's funny.
2007-10-22 15:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by NayNay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i believe that a problem. If he is a grown man still acting like a child, its going to take a good while for him to break his habbits. Just try to be reasonable with him and convince him that being a adult holds responsibility.
2007-10-22 15:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel better my husband still whines like a spoiled toddler and it took me 5 years to break him of the habit of stomping his feet when he didn't get his way! It's frustrating and extremely embarrassing around family. I feel your pain. Hopefully, he'll grow up one day and be a man, but I think it takes guys a lot longer than girls to do that.
2007-10-22 15:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by ditzydevil82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fun guy to be around. I wouldn't be embarrassed when he acts like himself. You are two different people, don't take his behavior as a reflection of you.
If you want him to change how he dresses, focus on the positive. "I like that shirt on you" "I think it's sexy when you match"
2007-10-22 15:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you marry him like that? If so, why are you trying to change him? When you decide to marry someone you are not supposed to be thinking 'can't wait to get back from the honeymoon and fix him.' Love is not supposed to be conditional.
2007-10-22 15:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by risahath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he conducts himself as a mature adult when it's called for, let him have fun, hopefully he will always be young at heart
consider the alternative a young man who acts like a fuddy duddy
2007-10-22 15:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by ann s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋