I'm curious, of those that have lost their virginity before marriage. Did you marry the first person you had sex with?? and do you regret giving it up? thanks people!
2007-10-22 14:57:04 · 18 answers · asked by hurley59gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I did not marry him and sometimes I do regret giving it up to him. But that was because I was young and thought that was how to keep him. Sex does not equal love. Dont let anyone tell you any different. But oh is it so much better when you are in a long-term committed relationship.
2007-10-22 15:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by lynjen31 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was sexually active for 10 years before I got married. I lost my virginity at 18 and although I don't regret it (in fact, my exact thoughts were something like "this was what I was waiting for?!?!"), I'm not extremely pleased about it either. The guy dumped me two weeks later, which was really bizarre because we dated for 8 months and he was a virgin as well. I just assumed he was gay in order to spare my feelings.
Anyway, I've had great sex and so-so sex, therefore I really feel that it's important to know what you're getting into in more ways than one before you get married! On the other hand, great sex can blind you to a so-so relationship and vice versa.
Whether you do or you don't, the most important commitment to make is to each other, because after a few years in a relationship, sex is probably going to be the last thing on your mind.
2007-10-22 15:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by Beth P 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I didn't nor have I ever had any intention of marrying the first person I had sex with or the second, third, fourth, etc. I don't regret giving it up. I want to experience different partners before I even consider getting married. Plus I'm too young to even think about getting married right now anyway (15).
2007-10-24 08:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost mine at 22 to the man I thought I would marry. He was my first EVERYTHING and the first person I truly loved.
It didn't work out between us then - he married someone else, had two kids, and divorced after years of marriage.
I, too, married and divorced someone else after the breakup. Who did he call after the divorce was final? -Me.
We've now been together 3 years, and it's been 3 years of absolute heaven! The first person I had sex with may not have been the first person I married, but I know he'll be the last.
I don't regret "giving it up": I cherish the thought that he was my first. I know it wouldn't have worked out between us back then, but we've both changed a lot over the years. I've never regretted that he was my first - if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change it for anything. I loved him then, but not as deeply and completely as I do now.
2007-10-22 15:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did not married the guy I lost my virginity to because he was killed in a car accident. I don't regret giving it up. However, my husband lost his virginity to me and married me, does he regret giving it up, I hope not.
2007-10-22 15:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by BreakingHeart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I unwillingly lost my virginity to my first bf. I had several other relationships after that before I met my husband. I regret ever dating my 1st bf bc he was such a loser and took what was mine without my consent. I don't regret being intimate with the other men after him.
2007-10-22 15:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I did not marry him, but do not regret it. We shared a great love and a long relationship that just didn't work out. That happens sometimes whether you're married or not.
2007-10-22 15:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by shes_marie77 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, did not marry him. No, do not regret it at all. Long term 9 year relationship that taught us both what we wanted and needed in an adult partner. It just wasn't each other!
2007-10-22 18:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, he wanted it before we got married and after we got married, he didn't want it anymore, in my 3rd marriage, the guy decided that I couldn't be trusted because I couldn't say no before we got married, so if I had sex with him before we got married then who else would I have sex with after we got married, do you understand? It was a trust issue, our sex life was also an issue witht he second man because he to, didn't want it as much after marriage, and the second marriage well, before again was good, and after it was just a mind game and not makinglove after marriage at all.
2007-10-22 15:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I did not marry the man I gave my virginity to.
No, I don't regret it. I made the right choice for me at the time. It was a wonderful experience and I'm grateful to have it.
2007-10-22 15:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋