I have been dating him for 5 months, we agreed to be exclusive, as I always have a feeling that he is keeping his options open, I asked to break up 2 weeks ago, he stopped me and talked about changing job to move in with me. He looked so serious that I didnt leave him cos I really like him a lot.
Today I found his account on a dating website, so I broke in his account(he has the same password as his labtop's log in password which he told me), and I found out he has set up a meeting with a girl for tomo.
I dont like doing things like this, is my behavior bad?
He has been seriously looking for a job in my area and talked about moving in December, why is he still meeting others?
2007-10-22 14:49:23 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Even if you like him a lot...get rid of him! He is obviously a liar and a deceiver. Hopefully you have more respect for yourself...don't settle for him! Break it off now!
2007-10-22 14:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by nwside_houston 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok you have a couple options here
#1. You could amybe print the letter or what-ever it was saying what was going to happen when he met this girl ( like where they were meeting ect) and let him do his thing and call him about the time it's going to happen, because chances are if she doesn't know about you then he won't answer and just ask him what he's doing ( don't say anything about what you know ) see what he says that drop it on him like a BOMB and tell him he can come pick up his stuff or what-ever the next day if he has anythign there if not tell him it will be outside. If your nervous to do it alone have a friend come over when he's going to stop by so you know you won't give in~!
#2. Just stop and ask yourself : "am I really happy" Do I like whats going on in this relationship? If no then END it early and make sure you bring up what you found and you should still print it off to just have proof~!!!
Well good luck!~
2007-10-22 15:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Dan H. Find a good excuse and then "happen" upon them! Sorry he's doing this.
BTW, I don't think it's bad that you checked out his account. If you've been together and exclusive for 5 months, he shouldn't even HAVE an account on a dating website!!! If he's stupid enough to have the same passwords, then more fool him!
2007-10-22 14:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by goddessusie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really what you need!! Meetthem at the meeting place, just say hi as you walk past, and watch him crap his pants. Where you wrong to break into his mail?? Well that's not important, jsut think about the heart aches you've saved yourselve by doing so!! He will not be happy that you did this,"it will be the focal point of his argument", tryn to deflect attention, away from his unfaithfulness!! I'm glad you saw this, he won't be!! Just get away for this cheater, that you almost LOVED!!
2007-10-22 15:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to confront him. and just be stright foward with him and tell him that you know, and see what he says about it. Try and make him feel bad about it, and just see what he has to say. Because if he is doing things like this and you guys have only been together 5 months... there is really no telling on what he could do later on so its best to find out everything now than later on down the road.
Good luck to the both of you!
2007-10-22 14:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't approve of snooping but if you found him setting up a meeting with another chick then get rid of him. You cold try talking to him but then he's going to ask why you were looking through his stuff. Another alternative is to "mysteriously" show up where he and that chick are going to be. That way you can dump him with no doubts or regrets.
2007-10-22 14:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, which I am pretty bold on this sorta stuff, I would find out where & when they're suppose to meet & surprise him.
Once I got there, I would ask him, in front of his date, if he forgot to invite me. I wouldn't make a scene, not over a boyfriend of 5 months, but I wouldn't move in with him either.
2007-10-22 14:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by ~Josie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that if he's going to sneak around on a dating site, he should at least be smart enough to use a different password than what's on his laptop. Then hang up.
He should get the point.
2007-10-22 14:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bob Thompson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he meets her kick his a** out. Ur still screwed if you live together and he is on a dating site. if you are breaking into other things like his email or text mess you have no trust there at all so move on. unless u like him hiding things from u and u snicking around just to catch him cheating or something.
2007-10-22 15:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by WORD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know where they are meeting and what time? I would show up there and pay him a little surprise.
People complain about being sneaky...but I think it's better than being ignorant and having him do this behind your back. Take a friend with you and meet him and his date.....To say HI and GOOD-BYE
Good luck
2007-10-22 14:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him ASAP. First, you shouldn't be snooping into his things. But you obviously don't trust him. You have to trust someone you are with and it sounds like he is a dirtbag. He'll like have some elaborate excuse, don't fall for it. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. He'll do it again. Ditch the loser and find someone worth your time. Good luck!
2007-10-22 15:28:53 · answer #11 · answered by grace 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋