I have been dating him for 5 months, we agreed to be exclusive, as I always have a feeling that he is keeping his options open, I asked to break up 2 weeks ago, he stopped me and talked about changing job to move in with me. He looked so serious that I didnt leave him cos I really like him a lot.
Today I found his account on a dating website, so I broke in his account(he has the same password as his labtop's log in password which he told me), and I found out he has set up a meeting with a girl for tomo.
I dont like doing things like this, is my behavior bad?
He has been seriously looking for a job in my area and talked about moving in December, why is he still meeting others?
2007-10-22 14:47:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have trust issues... Why hang with someone that you don't trust. So much that you have to invade his privacy to prove it to yourself.... Get out while it is still easy... there will be others... Much better and much more trustworthy...
2007-10-22 14:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by rukidden99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He kind of seems like he is playing you.
I was with a guy who would do things like this, then deny them and then promise to make things better, which he'd never do.
I'd go and see what happens. It's the only way you'll know for sure.
Or even just ask him why he needs an account on a dating website?
If he's looking for friends, he should just try myspace.
2007-10-22 21:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anabelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you had the right idea weeks ago. Even if you don't confront him with what you know, its apparent that he is not faithful to you.. Why put yourself through any more pain or stress about the situation... He is a liar and can't be trusted. Its to bad he couldn't make the relationship he was in more important. If you cant be his everything don't be just anything to him. Have some respect, show him you think more of your self than that. You deserve someone who wont cheat and lie to you...
2007-10-22 22:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the grass is greener with someone new with this guy. Look you had the right idea 2 weeks ago when you were going to break up with him. Go with your gut, that tells you to get the hell away from this guy and no you were not bad for looking him up on a dating website. Dump him girl and find someone who really really deserves you.
2007-10-22 21:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by lynjen31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just break up w/ him. You made the right choice 2 weeks ago.
It was nice of you to give him another chance, but he blew it by meeting this new girl and going on dating websites while supposedly being exclusive. He's obviously playing you.
2007-10-22 21:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call the radio station 104 KRBE. They do a segment called Roses. They pretend to be an online florist call your bf and pretend he is getting free roses to be sent anywhere. This is when they find out who he wants to send them with and what type of message he wants to include in his card. If he sends them to someone else, then you have busted him and can put him on the spot as to why he is doing what he is doing. I believe their number is 713-390-KRBE. It is the Rula and Ryan show.
You're behavior isn't bad. You were obviously right for feeling a little insecure about his actions and have busted him for it.
Good luck.
2007-10-22 22:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women get involved with men so quickly. Over and over again women think they can handle sleeping with a guy TOOO soon. You can't and not get more caught up in the relationship than the guy, no matter what he tells you. Break up with him and date guys from the dating website on your own account and just get to know them as friends. You'll find a good guy that way..and if the guy isn't willing to wait to sleep with you, then move on (and he should respect your feeling and if he doesn't...you just weeded out another jerk. Let it be about you and what YOU want, not about giving the guy you want what HE wants.
2007-10-22 21:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Happy1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he's still choosing to keep his options open. Yes, he's dating you exclusively, moving in, it's a perfect safety net and yes, if things go wrong or get rough, he's got an "escape" to flee to.
Bad behavior? I say it's your intuition, better to find out now instead of later on. You can definitely DO better than this loser.
2007-10-22 21:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when he meets the other girl I would just show up, like you just happen to be in the area, that way he won't know you broke into his account and he is caught anyways. And then you can be like who is this and what are you doing here and so on and so on and then decide if it is over and go from there,
2007-10-22 22:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would show up at the 'meet'.
I would even take a day off work to do that......then see what he has to say for himself.!
2007-10-22 21:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋